My Girlfriend and I have been together a month and a half now. Im 23, she's 21. Everything is good between us when we're together physically, but it seems things get alot harder on us when we aren't actually together. I do have trust issues, and we're working on that. Its just, she works alot, about 65 hours a week, so I barely get to see her that often. When I dont see her for a few days, I start to feel like she doesn't like me or that we aren't going to work out. I feel sad and depressed when she's not around, and I have this weird feeling in my gut that doesnt go away when we aren't together. I feel sometimes that maybe I like her ALOT more than she likes me, and I just dont know how to clear this mess up with her. I also highly doubt that she knows I feel like this when we aren't together. I know she has to work, and we need time away from each other. It's just, is this normal? To feel this way? I'm frustrated.
2006-08-27 08:49:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes you are very normal. It is the wonderful rollercoaster of love.
2006-08-27 08:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by sammi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't worry.i had this in a relationship but we were not together and I am 17.
So listen to this.If u see that she likes u,really likes u, when u are not together think only of the great moments u have together, think about the next time u're gonna see her and try to plan things in your mind so that u're gonna do sth interesting too.Keep your mind busy.U might also try going out more with your friends when u don't work and she's at work.Trust her if she shows u u can.
If she didn't like she wouldn't be with u that early.She likes u and when u tell us that you both are working together on trust issues that means she cares for you very much!
Don't worry!U may say u are lucky even to worry about love when having it coz other people don't have it at all.!!
You are young u'll gonna live many love stories if u want.Don't be anxious!U have a whole life to live
Good luck
2006-08-27 16:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by BlondieGd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, you're in love! If you guys are serious about eachother, ask what her plans are with the work hours. If she doesn't plan on decreasing the hours any time soon then you have to hang in there & be patient.
Tell her how you feel, really, you guys need to open up and see what's going on. If after you talk you still feel the same, then you have to consider what other options you have to make the situation better. Good luck!
2006-08-27 15:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ms. @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fill the time when she is away with things that make you feel good about yourself, or even get a part time job during those hours. What makes you happy? Racquet sports? Computer? Old movies? Car shows? Fishing? Water Sports? You have too much time and you take yourself so seriously. Lighten up. Have some fun and enjoy your love. That kind of possessiveness will drive her away!!!
2006-08-27 16:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to so many people when they are sincere in love. so u are too.
feel easy to tell her about Ur conditions very frankly........bc U really love her.
She also has to work .....and it seems she is a pretty hardworker and sincere girl.....who is sincere with her work and will most probably with U too.
be positive and reveal each and everything U have in Ur heart.
But dont be so much absorbed in this feelings....sometimes its not very good for relations.......U also make Urself indulge in Ur work...........and when she is not with U for long time .....then be in contact for Ur satisfaction through mails, sms, or sending some bouque of sweet flowers or even just a rose ( the red one)...What do u say?
2006-08-27 16:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Aena Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you feel insurcure about the relationship. If she works that much and doesn't really have anytime for you then maybe you to need to talk and find out if time can be worked out for relationship time. It does sound as if you like her more then she likes you. My husband is in the army and always being sent here and sent there without me. He is very attached and I told him if he hates leaving me to work then other things need to be worked out. Try going on one date a week. make it romantic, just liek the first time. That's what we do. When she's away do things to occupy yourself. Hang out with friends, do things that entertain yourself. Good Luck
2006-08-27 16:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know how you feel i have been there to and yes it is normal to feel like that you are human and have feelings..so just tell her alittle at a time how you feel to much or to fast then she will think of you differently and think you are to controlling or some thing so go slow at it ..
2006-08-27 15:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by little_man432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be going through some insecurity issues,sit down and talk with her and tell her how you feel.
2006-08-27 15:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to talk with her;just explain how you feel,things will get better right now it's just new to you i was like that also when i first met my husband!
2006-08-27 15:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think it's normal, but you should tell her about it, and probably she'll figure out a way for you not to feel that way, like calling you at night or go out to lunch.
2006-08-27 15:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋