i have two female friends, one white one black, the white girl really doesn't like the black girl?

Question

I asked her why, not because of color she said. Because she's outspoken and tries to intimidate her when she comes around. Then i asked her is it because she is black does that play a part and she said Well more blk girls act that way. She was crying because of all this, at first i felt bad for her but i thought if someone intimidates you how is that there fault. Actually the black girl doesnt pick on her or nothing she just strong minded and says what she feels. If you are intimidated easily that might be your own short comings. I did not tell her that. Example: i'm a freshman in highschool and i have to walk past the seniors, but they intimidate me so i go another way, its my fault i cant man up and not be intimidated isn't it. Or do i say there are stupid because they intimidate me. I'm curious do some white women feel intimidated by black women more so then white women. Now i dont know i surely can be wrong but it seems like less blk women are intimidated by white women

I'm not talking about the dating scene a white girl dating a blk guy, Just talking about general situations

im not in highschool were adults 25 26 28

to all that answer read the question the remark about highschool was an example all the parties are in there l;ate 20's

Answer 1

I'm sure some women do feel intimidated by black women although I'm not exactly sure why. Perhaps it's because there are a lot of outspoken black women out there. It's just part of our culture and not every culture can cope with women coming off so strong. One of my close friends (who is black) is one of the most friendly people I've met, but she's outspoken and she'll give you an honest answer no matter what. I'd rather have someone like her in my life (who will give it to me straight) than someone who will lie to me to keep from hurting my feelings. Some people are not comfortable with that amount of honesty in their lives. Perhaps they want everything to be superficial so no one will ever feel uncomfortable and nobody ever gets hurt feelings. I don't think your black friend is trying to intimidate her I just think your white friend probably doesn't have a lot of black female friends and thus doesn't understand the behavior. From what I hear your black friend is just confident, why should she change herself just because your friend is insecure?

Answer 2

I've dated white guys and I'm a black girl and I think I'm fairly attractive. All the white guys on here who say they don't like black girls' cultures or their music preferences or whatever other stereotype, way to generalize! *note the sarcasm* Don't be stupid. Every person is different, it doesn't matter what color they are.Yes I'm black, but that doesn't mean I am required to listen to hip/hop or rap. I listen to rock and all kinds of stuff. Just because I'm black doesn't mean I'm required to act ghetto. As you can tell I speak very proper. And another thing. There is no "speaking white". You can't speak a race; that's extremely ignorant. I speak proper, that's the way I was raised. Doesn't make me any less black because, oh wow, my skin is still brown even though I don't speak ghetto, surprise surprise!! I can't stand white guys that automatically say no to a question like this. Have you met every single black girl in the world? You haven't. A black girl may have a flat butt, no curves, thin lips, blue eyes, and blond hair, doesn't make her any less of a black girl. So please don't say no you would never date a black girl because we don't listen to the same music or we are all ghetto and aggressive, and then turn around and say you're not racist. That makes you racist. I don't date skin colors. I date personalities and looks. I've dated a white guy for 6 years, I've dated a mexican guy, I've dated an asian guy. It doesn't matter. Don't judge people based on their skin color before you even get to know them or better yet, before you even meet them! Why can't everyone try to be color blind? You've probably already come across your soul mate and didn't even know it because they were the wrong color.

Answer 3

I think it depends on the person but I feel that your white friend is wrong for believing in stereotypes,she's claiming she isn't but when she say a comment like "they just act that way",she just indirectly admitted it. As far as you being intimidated by the seniors, I think a lot of freshmen feel like that because they are in a new environment. You really eventually let go of this fear,it's a new school year and you will start feeling more comfortable once you get more aquainted with the school. Acourse seniors and other upperclassmen will always feel cooler than the freshmen,that's to be expected so there is nothing you can do about that except to flow with it. But guess what? Once those seniors graduate and enter into college,they are freshmen themselves once again and have to go through the whole process of being new in a new environment again. So don't worry about it,you will be fine.

Answer 4

I think that even though it may be a bit of intimidation, it could be more that women in general just cannot get along. We women are such haters. We will go to the mall with a friend and we can just sit there and make comments about other women walking by for absolutely no reason. I don't think it has to do with skin color because women of all nationalities do that.

Answer 5

First I want to say I'm not a racist Ive had friends of many nationalities other than my own. I would say that I do feel a bit intimidated by black women more than white women sometimes because they can be louder and more sassy than white women which brings too much attention from others around me.

Answer 6

I think it comes down to a lack of manners and maturity, really.

By the 9th grade, you should already have instilled into you some manners. Unfortunately, this seems to be lacking, and by all means kids in 9th grade aren't mature.

Remember this: manners help us all get along with one another. Without manners, there will not be politeness, courtesy or true kindness.

Acting in a proud, loud, and boastful way does intimidate others, and often displays a lack of breeding. If that remains unchanged, these folks will have a hard time interacting with many other types of people in life. It is true: people tend to gravitate toward others who share their own traits (personality and physical).

If nothing changes, they miss out on growth and learning from others, all because of a lack of manners and maturity. Besting your intimidator takes maturity and sometimes courage.

Answer 7

Well, assuming your friends are probably your age (Freshman) it's just a tough time. Whenever you run into someone who acts differently than you, it is sometimes difficult to know how to react. And, when I was young, when people were louder than me, it intimidated me. (I was better at hiding this than your friend is.) I think that's part of the environment some one grows up in.

Hopefully, your friend will become more self-confident. I don't go around bugging people, but I can usually tell if they are going out of their way to bug me or not - and it doesn't bother me that they are different.

Answer 8

Well, to be honest, sometimes I am. I feel that you can't be yourself around them. I like to ask questions. I am particularly interested in ethnicity/race and traditions and the like, but I often get the feeling that if I ask those kinds of questions to Blacks, particularly women, they right away assume I'm racist. Further, I'm always worried that something I say will be mistaken as racist even though I'm not nor would I be intending for that to be taken. I also suffered racism at the hands of a boss that almost lost me my job so I'm more nervous around Blacks because of this, though they may not even have been around me at the time of that horrible period. That they are loud (the boss I had trouble with gave all the employees a book for Christmas one year that explained why Blacks are loud and expected us to not only read it, but come in and discuss.) or out spoken, I don't have a problem with, just that everything seems to be taken as possible racism.

Answer 9

Tell your white freind to stop being such a fool and try to learn about someone before she prejudges. You miss out on a lot of potentially good experiences if you judge to hastily.

If this girl cannot get past her prejudice, then you might have to stop being friends with her. You cannot let her feelings get in the way of you making friends.

PS:

You need to cut out the extra info about yourself. This is about the two girls, not you.

Answer 10

I think it goes both ways. Women in general are more critical then men. Women compare eachother and compete with eachother I feel more then men and take things personal more. We can blame this on a male dominated society in general.