I'm always feeling self-conscious whenever I hear people talking I think they are talking about me or when people look at me
then I get all quiet and people catagorize me as shy
I'm getting tired of feeling this way whenever I'm around people
2006-08-27 08:27:36 · 14 answers · asked by goodies 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
cause you paranoid
2006-08-27 08:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by jyd9999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are paranoid or self-absorbed either.
Often when you feel this way, it comes from feeling a lack of approval from childhood. As they say, "there is no time in the emotional world."
However, the way that this stops may not be as simple as a trip to the psycoanalysts' chair. You may have an anxiety disorder, which is due as a result of both nature (genetic programming) and nuture (what went on in your life growing up). Don't worry though, there are many treatments that help. Most effective is some combination of phamacological (drug) and talk therapy.
I have an anxiety disorder also, and have overcome it with help.
I will probably always be on medication, but I look at that as a blessing, because we live in a time and a place where help is available.
Please remember that people that tell you to "get over it," or that you are self-absorbed just do not understand. Don't listen to negativity. Do take responsibility for your health and get help. You'll be glad you did. The thoughts WILL go away.
Hope this helps!
2006-08-27 08:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by HipandChic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are not even thinking about you as much as you think they are. They are too busy living their own lives and doing their own thing to give a crud about you (or anyone else).
If they are talking about you, give them something to talk about -- like all the good you are doing for the world.
If you're not doing good for the world, then stop worrying about what "everyone" is saying and GET BUSY! We have too much work to do to make this world better and we need all the help we can get. Then you will be so busy you won't even notice whether people are talking about you or not.
There are many volunteer activities that a shy or quiet person can do. Look around you and GET BUSY!!!! :-)
2006-08-27 08:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by nobadkids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!! I used to be the same way!! I'm still really shy but when you come from a big family and you're the only shy one in the bunch, you tend to get over it a little faster than most!! lol
i saw an icon on a friend's MySpace profile that said "For all of you who talk about me, Thank you for making me the center of your world!"
i know its kinda goofy but maybe it can help you not be so nervous!! but if this really does bother you or even prevents you from doing things (like making friends, etc...) maybe you should talk to someone about it!! it doesn't have to be a doctor, they don't always have the answers anyhow!! but maybe someone like a family member or close friend you know and trust!!
i hope i was able to help!! (maybe i could take my own advise sometime!!)
2006-08-27 09:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Squirly_Girly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're paranoid. People aren't always talking about you. There's a saying that goes "You wouldn't worry about how much people are talking about you if you knew how little they did." I'm not really sure how to stop you from thinking this way, but it's you not other people. And you are the only person you can control.
2006-08-27 08:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people talk about people they care about. may not be care in the way that you might think of care, but they don't talk if they don't care.
also --no matter what they're saying, people are essencially self-seeking and self-centered. so whatever it is --it's how it relates to THEM.
It isn't personal.
something that works for me is to figure out for me the people I consider safe and to put time and energy into my relationships with those people and then let go of the others. this makes me feel more secure.
best of luck to you.
it's a process.
2006-08-27 08:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel you - i kinda understand exactly what you're going thru cuz i'm like that at times - and i think most of the time our instincts and feeling (the vibe) is TRUE. but not always. you can confront them,,, or just ignore. and maybe u can think that they're talking about you cuz they're jealous. just try to be confident and ignore the ppl around you and ignore what THEY think. when you be confident it'll make that feeling go away..
2006-08-27 08:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by princess_sparkles 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Momma always said, "long as they are talking 'bout you they are leaving someone else alone."
Just smile your way thru this world, my goodness we have enough to be thankful for so smile when you're happy, smile when you're blue..........soon the whole world will smile with you....
My Daddy said the most beautiful girl in town was not the looks of her, but she was always smiling as she walked down the street.
2006-08-27 08:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by deed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like paranoia. Try some therapy. I'm not sure but there may be medicines for it as well. Ask a doctor or your therapist about it.
2006-08-27 08:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it and remind yourself of your worth. Jump into conversations on occasion.
2006-08-27 08:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by purelluk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you care, just tell them how you feel, or if what they said really was what you are, just try to get change. if you are not care and found it's not true, you can choose to ignore it.
2006-08-27 08:37:10 · answer #11 · answered by Nellie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋