whay does my bf want a baby so badly?

Question

my bf always talks about how he us wants to get married and have a baby together but y does he want to so badly i asked him and he says he just wants to

i really do to but i just never seen a guy so desperate to get married and stuff

Answer 1

That is an easy one. Your BF wants to have a baby for several reasons. He isn't the one that has to carry it and it will enhance his hold on you. As long as there are no children, it is easier to break it off, if you don't get along together.

When a child is involved, you become more dependent upon your spouse. Consider several possibilities:

A single mother always has a tough time of it. You said BF and I take that to mean they you are not married.

If this guy is really interested in raising a family, He will first ask you to marry him. If you think you would like to spend the rest of your life with him, do it. If not! Just say no to babies.

Time will usually solve this type of problems. They say that time heals all wounds, but also, Time wounds all Heels.

This appears to be one of those times, when life demands a very serious decision. Be very careful how you choose your next step.

Answer 2

WHO CARES!!!!!! Babies are NOT something you have with a bf first of all. They are human beings and will have entire lives, become members of society, have families of their own. Lots of people think they want babies for the wrong reason, they soon learn that being a parent is a whole bunch harder than it looks. Its not babysitting, you NEVER EVER get a day off, its a 24 hour a day job (no matter how tired, sick or what else you want to be doing), its not a rewarding job, kids aren't born appreciating you or what you do for them, there is NO pay for this job, no health insurance, really no benefits whatsoever...do you really want a job like that? How old are the two of you? If he can't give you a very long list of very good reasons then you don't even consider this. Grow up, have a life. Do you realize that one child costs between 10 and 22,000 dolllars in the FIRST year alone? Do you or your bf have that kind of money? If you don't you can't afford to have one anyway. Its also very obvious that neither of you is mature enough to be a parent and in all likelihood it won't give him whatever he is looking for, he's trying to have a baby to solve a problem he has in himself, as soon as he finds out it doesn't fix him (and I guarantee it won't) he'll bail and keep looking for something that does and you'll be stuck with a kid forever and your entire life will be screwed up.

Answer 3

He loves you? If you are of age to marry and you love him and this is what you want too - then go for it. Remember the financial responsibility that goes with a child. A child is not a toy or a passing phase. A child is a life-long commitment that makes both your jobs 24/7. There is not start and end time with a child. I believe the cost to raise a child from birth through high school averages over $200,000. Really think about this.

Answer 4

Because it's normal for people wanting to get married and have a family. Maybe he wants a baby so badly, because his getting older and thinks time is running out for him. If you don't want children you should let him know so that he can move on.

Answer 5

"just wants to" is a reallllly bad reason to have a baby....
Is it possible that he's insecure and wants a way to make sure you'll stay with him? Just from the wording of your question you dont sound ready for this. A baby is a 24/7 responsibility for the rest of your life. All of your time, attention, energy and money will be dedicated to your child. Its nothing to take lightly.

Answer 6

some guys are just made for family! it seems like yours is one of them! So it's great! BUT! if you ain't ready to get married and have a baby - maybe you're just too young- don't give in! try and explain him what your feelings are. And if you don't want to have any babies at all, then tell him and leave him, find someon else and leave this one for the ones who want babies

Answer 7

Ok your boyfriend sounds like he truly wants 2 settle down with you he is convinced you are the one for him but you gotta tell him 2 slow down that you are not ready for this yet if you love him and he loves you he will understand just tell him 2 enjoy what you both have so far that you are not ready 2 get tied down.

Do not let him corner you about it stand your ground but I doubt he is I have never heard of a guy sayin he wanted a kid just for sex it sounds like he is in love with you.Just make him understand you are not ready and hold on 2 him guys like this are a rare coz most of us think with whats down below.The guy is also prob upset about failed relationships in the past and just wants 2 settle down.

So just be careful how you handle this situation try and be calm and apologetic(I know you done nothing wrong but it helps)and reasure him you will stay with him.Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Because having or not having families is a very important decision for many people. Choosing whether or not you want to be a parent is life-altering and he is very admirably being clear about what he wants in the future. Maybe he keeps bringing it up because you haven't or aren't able to provide the same clarity about what you want. If you are sure what you want, you should tell him, and if you're not you should tell him that too.

Answer 9

I wonder, how old are you and your boy? Is he pushing because he's afraid you'll leave? That is often a reason why boys push for babies. But of course, it could be because his life is hard for him so he wants an escape.

I'm not saying ask directly, if you don't want to. But listen to your instincts and what he has shown you about who he is.

Until then, BE SAFE!! I know about the fear of not knowing. I wouldn't won't anyone to feel that way.

Answer 10

The only reason a guy would want a baby is to trap you into staying with him. Or if he thinks he's dieing and needs an heir.