I've been going out wit my boyfriend for about a month already and he's a great guy and im startin to have some strong feeling for him but just a few days ago i found out that he's jealous of my bestfriend.. she's BI but rite now she's in a relationship wit a guy and the've togethere for 3 months.. she has never tried hooking up with me or hit up on me in anyway.. My boyfriend get jealous because im so close to her but she like my sister.. oh and im straight! So i would never do anything wit her!
Wat should i do? Tell my boyfriend he's dumb or stop spendin so much time with my friend?
2006-08-27 08:13:04 · 14 answers · asked by Confused Chick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I spend time with both of them at school because we all hang out together.. I cant tell him to go wit other friends because we have the same friends in common..
He thinks that i ignore him when im with my friend because i talk to her but thats the only time i see her cuz WE(me and her) are always wit our boyfriends.. Her boyfriend graduated from school already so he's never with her during school..
And my boyfriend thinks i might cheat on him wit her because i told him that i loved my friend but in a non sexual way i love her as sister.. I know that my boyfriend really likes me but i dont know how to tell him to stop worrying about nonsense
2006-08-27 08:31:14 · update #1
Tell your boyfriend what you just told us (leaving out the he's dumb part maybe), and see how that goes. But don't ever distance your friends for a guy.
2006-08-27 08:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl let me break it down to you......A good man is hard to come by.........
If you really like this guy you would tell him that this is your best friend and nothing is gonna change how your friendship is with her, but on the other hand you said your friend has a bf now.....well let her spend more time with him and spend more time with this guy who is great and who treats you good.......If you put your friend first all the time, your gonna be manless while she's having fun with her dude.
If that doesn't work and your friend gets mad than why don't you all go on a double date and let him see that there is nothing going on between you girls and you can spend time with both of the people you care for including her boyfriend!
2006-08-27 08:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by MYPHARRELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your boyfriend honestly how you feel:
1) you are straight and not interested in being with a woman
2) she's your best friend; she's like a sister, and has never tried to "hook up" with you
3) relationships don't work well if either party is forced to give up or spend less time with friends, especially close friends
Tell your boyfriend that his jealousy is HIS problem and he needs to deal with it and that if anything, YOU should be disturbed by the fact that underlying it all he must not trust you because doesn't he realize that you wouldn't be with him if that's not where you wanted to be????
Don't forget either - friendships often outlast love relationships. Keep your friends -they are the ones you need for support when relationships don't work out!!!
2006-08-27 08:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are starting to have strong feelings for this dude, you are about to fail your relationship. you need to examine yourself, does this bisexual friend of yours mean more to you than your boyfriend? He has every right to feel the way he does, It's not about him being jealous, and insecure, it's about respecting his feelings. If that is such a hard decision to make, you never really cared for him in the first place, why not make him your best friend? if he does'nt posess those qualities, why are you with him?
2006-08-27 08:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure what the problem is. You went into detail but didnot explain What he is jealous about? Does he think you are cheating on him with her? This is typical of a straight male that feels unable to satisfy a woman.
just my 2 cents..
2006-08-27 08:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by jobie023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember chics before *****. Your boyfriend is being an overprotective insecure moron. Spend as much time as you want with your friend. If your boyfriend cant accept that, tell him to get over it or get over you.
2006-08-27 08:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your bf is insecure. Tell him that he needs to hang out with his friends more and stop being jealous that you have friends.
2006-08-27 08:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell your b/f, your straight & wouldn't ever do anything & that, she's like your sister. if he doesn't go for that, then just hang out with him more often
2006-08-27 08:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend to calm down. You were friends withher first.
He has to trust you.
2006-08-27 08:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by dionne m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u shed tell your boyfriend dont worry about your bestfriend and start worry about his self
2006-08-27 08:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋