My wife bores me should I leave her?

Question

she is younger than me but we have nothing in common, she went on a trip for 2 months and it was like she never left. I didnt miss her and when she got back it was just the same. we never talk or go out and rarly have very boring sex. She is watching tv and I am on line asking questions here because she is so boring I want to scream!

When I take her out all she wants to do is look at a movie and bore me to death. Sex is so boring that I dont even bother anymore. In the past sex with others was always hot and exciting. When she calls me on the phone it is like no one is there she is a non person. All weekend she watches tv or sleeps. I had so much fun while she was away for 2 months visiting family I didnt miss her at all when she came home it was just like when she was gone BUT MUCH MORE dull and boring. I want out but Im scared of being alone but being with her is just like being alone. I took her to 2 councelors they both told her to learn to talk she never did. I left her for 4 months a year ago but she is so lame she cant survive on her own and her family is all overseas so I feel sorry for her and stay with her. I am so depressed and bored im lonly and sad every day I get no sex or love or even conversation. Im married to a nonperson a lump in front of a tv.

Answer 1

First of all, did you not realize this when you married her? Or was she interesting until after the marriage?
You shouldn't want to jump to a divorce because your wife bores you. You should want to work it out if you love her at all.
My suggestion to you is to get marriage counseling. The two of you can both speak with a professional about what is bugging you (because... maybe she thinks you are boring too or has other issues with you that you don't know about) about one another and learn about activities the two of you can do to regain a happy marrige.
If you DON'T want to get marriage counseling then I would say, ask your wife if she wants to do something. Don't sit around waiting for her... if you want to do something, throw a few suggestions at her like movies, park, dinner, etc. Maybe she's been waiting for you to approach her with some plans.

Answer 2

Marriage is a serious engagement. How come you didn't know her better before you got in? I am sure you would put more thought into buying a car. I am done blaming you. Now, about leaving her: yes you should. Give both of you a second chance finding love and respect. You obviously have neither and that is not healthy. By the way, are you interesting?

Answer 3

of course you should leave her...you will no longer be bored..you will be busy working to replace the 50% she is going to get in the divorce. I suggest you look a lot deeper into the next person you decide to marry. I doubt if she has change one bit. Also, I think I would have my head examined before taking another wife...you tend to make poor choices. in life.

Answer 4

You will get out of relationship what you put into it.Every thought that maybe she tells her friends that she is married to a boring man.He sits on line and doesn't do anything that is fun.My guess is that the 2 of you had something in common or you wouldn't have gotten married.What is boring sex?Anytime my lady wants me ,it's never boring.Spice it up,try something new,buy her sexy undies better yet show her you care and are interested.With that I bet she would become a tiger in bed.

Answer 5

WOW. Why don't you talk to her about how you feel. Maybe things can be different, maybe she is going through something or is suffering from depression or maybe the two of your aren't compatible. Think about the reasons why you married her in the first place, maybe you are in relationships for all the wrong reasons, and need to look at yourself from the inside out to see what it is that you are doing wrong to feel this way. Good luck!

Answer 6

Let me check those vows you took upon marrying her.............no, it says nothing about leaving when bored...but it does say for better or worse.....learn to live with it...and lastly, you are on the computer, and you say you are boring? it sounds to me like you are showing no excitement to her...no going out....you don't talk to her, and could care less if she leaves for 2 months......at least you do not have very boring sex......get a life, and make her a part of it

Answer 7

If i had a man like you i would be bored too. hell she is probably bored with you. boy you are a winner, you married her so now you have to fix the problem and putting her down like that hell she would be better off without you. Some men don't need to be on this planet because there are nice girls out there like your wife that don't need jerks like you. You need to respect others man, so to say that on here about your wife grow up and get off here creep.

Answer 8

You married her so its on you. Yes you should leave her but not because she is boring...but because you are a jerk and she deserves better. This isn't working so just pack your cruel butt up and go. She left for two months, she obviously doesn't think much of you either!

Answer 9

I am on my computer answering questions and my hunny is cooking. Last night I was on my computer answering questions and the night before that and before that....Im ALWAYS at my computer. My hunny is always watching tv and tell him, HE'S BORING! lol

BUT! we talk about how we feel. If I get upset because im so bored and he gets upset cause Im on my computer so much, WE TALK about it. THen we come up with something to do TOGETHER!

go tell her that you want to do something! You've got to communicate! Don't leave her because she's boring. Is she bored with YOU??? How do you know??? Get off your computer and go tell her! Seek counseling! It helps!

Answer 10

Did you forget you vows" to be together till the death us part". It is your duty as a husband to create an interest in her needs. I am positive that she will respond when she notice that you care. I also suggest that u consult professional marriage adviser. Every marriage is worth to rescue.