you to move back with family,but she doesn't want to stop childsupport do think its ok fair. what whould you do??
thanx!!!!
2006-08-27 08:03:51 · 26 answers · asked by johnnny805 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Legally, if you moved back in, that would make you a live in boyfriend where she has her cake and gets to eat it too and have you clean up afterwards. She could throw you out anytime and you dont have any legal rights to stand on. If youre thinking about getting back together then do it right and try to work out your indifferences that caused the divorce and then if you two do, get back together and move in , then get the support payments to end otherwise you have no more then what I said above
2006-08-27 08:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not fair, by you living there and hopefully having a job you are supporting the whole family, she is playing you, she wants child support and extra money by you providing her the other stuff. Sounds like she is just going to use you, you divorced for a reason maybe it should stay that way. I hate saying that because i have an ex who avoids child support all together but running but it is not fair in this situation. good luck.
2006-08-27 19:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand your question, you mean that she is moving back with her family, not that you are moving back in with her. that being the case you are stil obligated to pay for your childs support, even if she won the lottery, youd still owe what the court says you are obligated to pay, sorry thats just the way it works, the only thing that coul dmake a difference is if she gets a better paying job and starts making more money than you do, then you could ask the court to adjust the amount that you pay to reflect her higher income.
2006-08-27 15:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, not bad for you. As long as you live in the home, your child support helps maintain the home you live in. At the same time, you are paying your support. This way, if things don't work out, you don't have to go back to court. Your wife sounds like a sensible woman, "Hoping for the best, but keeping eyes open." There is hope, if you work our the things that split you up before.
2006-08-27 15:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your childsupport obligation doesn't end just because she moves.... If you feel the childsupport amount should change contact your local child support enforcement agency, they can tell you the exact laws for your area and help you in filing additional paperwork ect. in regards to your case...
2006-08-27 15:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK your divorced your free do you really want to put yourself through that again, think about y u got divorced in the first place.... i think its great you pay child support , just be there for your kids but i wouldn't move back there if i was you
2006-08-27 15:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the only money you are contributing to the family - then yes it does seem fair. But if you are splitting bills as you had done in the past with joint bank accounts etc... no it would seem like you are being taken advantage of. Do you know where the money is going.
2006-08-27 15:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Julia M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead you have nothing to lose.
You have to pay the child support anyway, either through your paycheck or in person, you lose nothing there.
You live back at home with your kids and you dont have to pay the rent on your other place, so youre financially better off. Its a win-win buddy, go for it.
2006-08-27 15:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! She wants your money, man.
First, if you moved back in with them she is still eligible to receive the child support income for her kids because you two are divorced.
And, I think what she wants is for you to not only pay child support, but if you move in, end up paying other things.
Don't move back with her; you two are divorced for a reason.
Continue to pay the child support and stay away from her.
2006-08-27 15:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you still have to take care of your family.Some people will stop taking it out of your payroll check through the courts only to take the money from you then go back to court and get back child support on money you already gave them. But you have no proof other than you saying you live with them.
So to protect you in the long run continue to let her take it out of your check.For your own good.
2006-08-27 15:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋