my bf has lately bin insisting 2 hav physical relations .. n i dont want it to happen right now ... i wanna save my virginity till i get married.... he has already insisted twice.. n now im in a state that im almost ignoring him .... i do have a soft corner 4 him .. i care 4 him i luv him ... but i dont want it rite now.... how do i tell him widout making him feel offended or upset ... both the time earlier it had been a lucky escape 4 me..but he had been brought down in spirit 4 a few moments....so i dont wanna hurt him ... how do i convince him ?
2006-08-27 07:47:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sweetie, You will get lots of that from boys that dont really care about you but just getting in your pants. You are thinkiing straight and should wait until marriage. You are doing the right thing. If a guy cannot respect you respecting your body, tell him to move on. Who cares if he is offended? He surely doesnt care if you are offended that he wants you use your body for his benefit. Keep thinking straight, I wish there were more girls like you.
2006-08-27 08:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really cared about you and really respected you and your feelings he wouldn't be pressuring you to do, it, once or twice would have enough to teach him. Just tell him that, if he loves you then he will wait until your ready, and if that's marriage then he should respect that. If he break es up with you because of it he wasn't worth your time anyway. My friend was in the same position and she said that and her broke up with her but she realized that he only "loved" her because he thought she was easy
2006-08-27 08:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bryn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You girls really have a problem! I mean, it's your right to want to keep your virginity until you're married (although I can't quite understand why). But it's also his right to want it. Tell him you won't do it until you're married, then he'll decide if he wants to break up with you or not. I mean, I would never stay with someone who doesn't want to have sex! he probably really likes you. I'm sure he doesn't want to just "get into your pants" (well, maybe he does, but not all guys are like that, you know).
2006-08-27 09:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Offkey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this is your body and you are making an awesome descion in waiting wish more girls were like this. But now he needs to understand also that hey your not ready for that next step. If he doesn't well tough cause your sticking to your gunz.
Just stick to your heart and all will go well.
2006-08-27 07:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by rainymar143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
save yourself. All he is thinking about is a self gratification for the moment. If he is presurring you he is only thinking of himself. If he truly loves you he will respect you and not presure you. Anyhow once you give in, he has gotten what he wanted and then he will dump you.
2006-08-27 09:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by angeleloves 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he loves really loves you he'll wait. check out 1 Corinthians 13 sometime. if he doesn't respect the fact that you want to wait, then end the relationship - even if it hurts, it's the best thing you can do.
2006-08-27 09:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by soccergurl040709 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him no is no. If he keeps insisting, he's probably going to leave you. He's not the right person for you if he disrespects your decision.
2006-08-27 15:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kenneth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he actually like you he would respect your choice.Just say no and speak your mind walk away from what you don't want.Srry this sin't helpful but btw is that your pic in your avatar wow if it is your stunning<3 very pretty I mean that in a non lezy way!
2006-08-27 08:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with danie, if he cant respect u den he must not want u dat bad u already said no the first time and if he really wanted a relationship with u then he would have took no the first time instead of asking you again!!!
2006-08-27 07:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Princezz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him you love him and want to wait and if he cant wait for you then you guys have got to put it off as friends till you are ready
2006-08-27 07:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by carolea_lamblin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋