Without sounding like "oh my god, i'm so important, everyone listen to me and my whiney A.S.$ problems", i need some goth advice.
People become Goths for several reasons, you know that, so lets just leave it there. I mean, we actively choose to become a "goth" (getting sick of stereotypes too, anyone else?), but we usually have friends of a like mind. Here is my problem.
All of my friends have left my school except for a smattering, and they don't think like a goth...in fact they frown on it.
I like being a Goth...makes me feel happy and actually like a person, but i have no other goth friends to share this with and all the the other "online" goths i've found are either regular "don't step too close to the glass clarice" cases or pervs.
What do i do?!?!?!?!
2006-08-27 07:40:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Be who you are, and accept other people as they are. If you have a really extreme look, other people may be intimidated and keep a distance, or harass you (depending on your school.) Everyone is right -- things change completely when you get out of high school. I was goth in high school, my bf wasn't goth per se, but he had a really unique look. We both had a few friends, but most people treated us badly. After I got out of school, I met some people who had been at my hs, but who were in the younger grades. They told me that they admired the fact that my bf and I were individuals -- we didn't cave to the "preppy" ideals that ruled the other kids, and we ignored their snotty attitudes. I'm sad that some goths have developed the same snotty exclusiveness that I saw in the popular kids when I went to school.
If being goth makes you happy, be goth. Goth is really in your heart anyways, if you aren't really goth, everyone will know you are a poser. If you try to hide it, everyone will see that you are goth anyways. Just be happy, and let others be happy being who they are. If you show your true colors, you might give other people the courage to come out from the shadows and then you won't be as alone anymore. Don't be afraid to be different.
2006-08-28 15:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by M H S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I'd take it from your question that you're still in high school, which would put goth clubs out--though most of them, I've discovered, are primarily the "don't step too close to the glass clarice" types (I love that description!).
Have you ever played roleplaying games? Most of the goth folk I've met (all really nice people, for the most part) were at live-action or tabletop Vampire the Masquerade games. Some won't allow players under 18, but never hurts to poke around and find out...
2006-08-27 07:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by angk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there are some clubs or societies outside of school in your local area which are 'goth' related. Haven't checked out where you're located but in the UK there is a website called Netgoth that lists pubs / clubs / shops/ societies etc. all over the country, which are listed by area. It is wise to be careful when meeting people online because there are some complete headcases out there. Stay safe and don't be afraid to enjoy your own company, it will make you a stronger person. And it is okay to have friends who look different from you. The people who dismiss you just because of how you look aren't worth the time of day anyway.
2006-08-29 02:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by madlotty_uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just decide that you're going to be the only Goth in the place for the moment. How long that will last no-one can tell maybe a month maybe a year, but human nature being what it is, you won't be the only one for long. Also you're building up your reserves of strength and courage by being willing to go it alone for a while. Your non-Goth friends may not share your views, but they sure as heck will respect you for them. It's better to be respected than to be popular anyway.
2006-08-27 07:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you're the only Goth in the village, it's no one else's business. Just do your own thing and people will soon see you for the person you are.
2006-08-27 07:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Treat Infamy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do I really have to state the obvious here: Your "friends" are not your friends, if they really give half a crap about what you wear.
You're better off being a loner.
As for finding "goth" friends...go to some concerts.
2006-08-29 07:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am far from a gotth but they are just people. I'm sure you should look outside of online convos because there are some creepy goths online
2006-08-27 07:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make all of your friends to goth. Then again most goths don't give a **** about people.
2006-08-30 12:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tyler S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to thine own-self be true... I am sorry there are not others like you to be friendly with, maybe form friendships with non goths.. I may not understand goth.. but I admire one who marches to the beat of a different drummer....
2006-08-27 07:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem....i hate the steryotype "goth" i just happen to like black, look for people that arnt just your year, when i was in yar7 i had year 8/9 freind because people in my year just didnt understand
2006-08-27 07:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋