Did you move out when you were 18??

Question

i want to move out because i cant stand my parents. me and my friend are planning to move in together, and we will share rent and all of that. we have been planning a lot, and it isnt a spur of the thing moment. did u move out when u were 18? how did it turn out? how did ur parents react?

im honestly not too into college. a comunity college for 2 years will make me happy. i want to focus on music and my band. we play a lot of shows so we might get sucessful. my parents dont support ANYTHING i do. we fight everyday, and we are both tired of it.

Answer 1

I lived at home until I was 28. I moved in to one of my mother's apartment buildings.

Answer 2

No, I moved out when I was sixteen. At first my mother really didn't like it but then we started to get along better. She saw the benefits of it then. A little distance was all we needed. Yes, it's hard the first time you're out on your own, there are a few struggles, it's nice if you have some one to fall back on (A mother would be good) some one to ask how you should handle things. Moving out should not mean that you want to break all ties with your parents, they will be your greatest allies many times in your life. Moving out is more like moving on. You're gonna do things your parents don't like, and they will do many that you don't like. That's life. Get used to it. The only thing you should do now is talk, no screaming, (by them or you) just talk.
Getting a place of your own is a natural part of growing up and, yes, it's gonna be hard for your parents to handle, to let go. I wish I had hung around a little longer. Like I said, it's tough out there. Especially at first. I could have used a little more time, more planning. But, hey, you deal with what you put in front of you. Don't take on more than you can handle. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes. My roommate screwed me though. Be sure that you know your friend pretty well. I had the apartment for 5 years. I went through 7 roommates. It's hard to rely on people. I lost money by having bad roommates that stole from me and used my kindness.
If your roommate agrees to pay half. Don't pay for them if they can't make payments. I'm not saying don't help them. But don't get used. Get an apartment you can manage on your own if you loose the roommate.
My family was actually kicking me out unless I paid 500 dollars a month for rent. That was expensive. They were not trying to be mean, just wanted me to be responsible.
Note: this was not my parents, I didn't live with them.

What ever you decide, good luck!!

Answer 4

I think what you are saying, is very normal for your age. You sound like you and your friend have talked a lot, planned a lot and really, you are at an age where legally speaking, your parents are no longer responsible for you. You are an adult. So if you feel you can make it out there, rent, utilities, groceries, car payments, insurance, repairs, etc,,,,,,,,,,,,,,then go for it! It is probably the biggest growth of life experience you're ever going to get!!! I didn't move out at 18, went to a commuting college, had a boyfriend, but I did move out after I got my college degree at 21 years old and I have never been back! I can't say looking back that I don't miss having somebody like my Mom and my Grandma then, around, to talk to, to lean on but it's all a part of growing up. Don't leave because you can't stand your parents, leave because you feel you are ready to go, and you and your friend can handle it! It'll be a much more positive way of going, because as much as your parents may drive you crazy, they know you like nobody else on this Earth, and love you anyways!! My parents have been through everything with me, with my husband and our kids and when I was 18 years old, never thought I'd ever say how much I love them, appreciate them. They did the best they could, with what they knew, and now it was my turn to make our own life, but they're always there! I now can't imagine my/our life, without them in it, that one day as they are now 78 and almost 81 years old, they won't be with us in body but in spirit only one day! So don't take for granted what you have, and who you have in your life, make the best of it!!! I don't know your situation with your parents, your household, but you don't sound like you are being abused or anything like that, so take another look, listen and know what you are feeling and why you are doing what you are doing. GOOD LUCK! May there always be better, brighter days ahead.............best of everything!

Answer 5

i moved out when i was 15 and believe me, it was very hard. I was lucky as I had a good network of friends and family. However, it did restrict me in later life. I had to do uni later, I had to work earlier (which is ok in a way as I started my pension when i was 17) but i had to really watch the pennies at all times instead of just concentrating on developing myself and my relationships. Also, although i enjoyed the usual things like holidays, etc, I never got the opportunity to save as much as I could have done such as for a house - I am 27, have got a fantastic job and able to do it now but some of my mates who stayed at home were able to do it quicker. Parents can be a nightmare particularly as they don't understand how being young works now. Sometimes, it just gets to a point where you do need your own space away from them to have a better relationship with them - at least that's what I found. If you are going to move out, try to maintain a relationship with them but if you can, stay on at your parents for a bit longer and save as much you can before you move out.

Answer 6

If you can afford the expense of moving out on your own, then just do it. Don't be asking mommy and daddy for money when you're short for rent or the power bill, because, remember, you can't stand them. When you do move out, it is only then, that you realize how much your parents actually did for you. I was 19 when I left my parents home, and like you I couldnt stand them. I joined the Navy and off I went. You know who I called the most and where most of my letters were written to? My mother, that I couldnt stand. All of the sudden the world was a pretty lonely place and I realized it was my parents who were the only ones that gave a damn about me. So, think this through. And good luck.

Answer 7

Yup! Got suspended from college for six months because of a low (less that 2.0) GPA. Went into the Army, stayed for 23 years, got a BA and MA through Army Education Center(s).

Parents were pretty supportive.

Answer 8

I did move out when I was 18.

I know you think these people are your friends, but talk all topics over before moving in together. A desire to get away from parents is not enough. You will find out how much you can (or unfortunately, cannot) trust these individuals.

The best of luck.... protect yourself financially.

Answer 9

I moved out when I was 18. It was cool at first, but then bills start adding up and you realize that maybe living on your own isn't that awesome. But, I have a really good relationship with my mom, so I wouldn't mind moving back in with her. If you lose your job or something (unexpectedly) it's really hard to make ends meet. Plus, you can't always depend on your roommate to have the money to cover things. If he/she is short, you have to pay or you will start having financial problems....

Answer 10

I was kicked out at 18. Careful who you chose to move in with, you may not be friends at the end. You really get to know a person when you live with them. And that's not always good, some people have annoying habits. Good luck!