i used to be able to make friends so easily, and i used to be really open with myself. Now im really shy and its really hard for me to make friends. I dont talk alot anymore and i dunno why. is there a way for me to go back to my old self?
2006-08-27 07:09:52 · 17 answers · asked by big e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
get of the computer and be a man .
2006-08-27 07:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by abd_haf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? hmmm this indicates that you may be doing something called: growing up. It's not that you are going crazy or you're becoming uncool.I can guess that you may be in your early to mid teens;maybe even late teens.The older you get , the more people you are exposed to.Most likely, these people are of different backgrounds, have different interests and personalities, etc.Don't forget that your peers are probably going through what you are going through right now.They just have their own way of coping with it and even hiding it.I say just be yourself.Be more open by being less judgemental.If you think everyone is against your or may not approve of who you are, stop thinking it right now! No one is perfect! Always remember: be who you are and so what you mean, because those who matter won't mind and those who mind reallyy don't matter!..Its' just a phase.You probably heard this before, but trust me, it's just a phase.You may not think of it this way but in like 3-4 years , you'll be laughing at yourself.People change, things change, things go wrong;but life goes on! What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.Stay positive and only the positive will come!
2006-08-27 14:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what age you are at, but I find that no matter what age(though to me, the teen years are harder) that we all go through times of being more open, more available and friendly to others. Then if your life is very busy or if you have been rejected, judged, criticized a lot, you tend to not want to as open, or make friends as easily. Somebody, years ago taught me, that life is like a wheel, the center of the wheel is you, your immediate family, then the spikes of the wheel or spokes,lol, are the extended family and friends that are already known as "lifers", then on the top of the wheel are friends that come in and out of your life, for a reason, a season or again, a lifetime. It is shown throughout time, not to me something that can be fixed immediately. Its not always necessarily you, and you might want to take a look at who you are surrounding yourself with. Are they people who are good,caring,friends?People who help you and you help, you know there for each other? Everybody goes through this, good times, hard times, and you change, people change, life is forever changing. It is how we learn to handle it, learn from it, and grow and go with the flow that to me, life(the journey)is all about!! Now if you are like this of not feeling like your old self, within a period of weeks, then I would go and talk to somebody, a good therapist or counselor. I think it's important to have a nonobjective person to talk to, and if you are not just feeling the blues, but having a depression(there is a major difference)then you may need medications, but work again between your therapist at that point and a good psychiatrist who knows all meds for this and what would be best for you!! Good luck! Just remember, it isn't easy, but you can make it what YOU want, hang in there, better, brighter days are ahead!!!! : )
2006-08-27 14:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are spending too much time on the computer and internet. I go through those phases myself. I start to wonder why I don't want to be with people any more, and I realize it's because I'm too attached to my private time on the web.
I hear a LOT of people talk about that. Our society is destined for some big changes if we all get to be nothing but recluses.
2006-08-27 14:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did someone betray you? Sometimes you close up when you have been hurt and betrayed.... I would just get your confidence back and start opening up. You sound like a nice person therefore you just need to be confident and secure with yourself and heck with what people think.......
I guarantee that the more confident and secure you are with the way you are, people will want to be around you as it is human nature to want to be around people who show confidence!!!!!!!!!!! :)
2006-08-27 14:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try "The Feeling Good Book," by Dr David Burns, but you must do the exercises, mental stuff with pen and paper.
2006-08-27 14:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of the computer and go outside. Go to a ball game, a club, a church, a library. Computer friends are few and far between. If you had to resort to this it is a good indication where you spend most of your time. Shut off the computer and get a life.
2006-08-27 14:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same thing happened to me. I just tried to make friends and I did. All you have to do is try a little harder. Good luck.
2006-08-27 14:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a rut. Just force yourself to get going and make new friends. You'll soon get your momentum back.
2006-08-27 14:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Slugg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody changes over time, u just have to be social with people
2006-08-27 14:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed for some reason.
Talk it over with a friend or therapist.
2006-08-27 14:13:16 · answer #11 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋