what would you do if your hubby was working away and he?

Question

said he had been out for a meal with two women that you didn't know and he doesn't know why you are making an issue out of it..............he can't seem to see that this has hurt me........we do have a very trusting relationship but i feel as though he's cheated.... what would you do?

Answer 1

A lot of men wouldn't even tell their wives that they'd dined with another woman. Your hubby told you upfront,which tells me he is an honest man. I can understand why you would be a little upset,but if you really trust your man,there is nothing to worry about. One thing I've learned in the 20 years I've been married is that worrying about something won't change what may or may not happen. You have to trust that your husband will do the right thing in any situation that may endanger your marriage. Questioning his motives will only put a strain on your relationship.

Answer 2

Well, my first impression was he is out in the open. If the tables were turned and you were one of the two women maybe you'd find having a married man a source of protective company. Would you rather have him drinking in a bar alone? Question: how did the two of you meet chances are he has a style of behavior that makes you question his intentions. As you must know it's no fun being accused of behavior that didn't happen. It only makes you someone he is less likely to want to come home to. Try to find some new hobbies and interests, you will have more interesting things to talk about. Ask him how he would handle temptation knowing it's availability. We become more suspicious when we are under stress. Try a YOGA class to strengthen your mind body and soul. Take a self defense class it will empower you and you will feel more centered. GOOD LUCK be happy.

Answer 3

If you have a trusting relationship then that is exactly what you should be doing. Trusting him. He has been honest with you and told you that he had a meal with two women. Just because you don't know them don't mean he's cheating on you.

Answer 4

I don't think he has cheated- its the age old story of "men never tell their other halves about what they have been doing" because they think its better off not said or they think if they do say anything they will be in trouble!!!!
I think if he's even told you he went for dinner with 2 other women thats a good thing- if he had cheated he wouldnt have told you at all and would have acted very strangely-
This is mens behaviour over and over and I have had to deal with it as my partner has met a girl who is now his "best friend" imagine how that made me feel!!!! but it is totally platonic and I have made it clear if he has or does cheat- IT IS OVER
There you go! good luck!

Answer 5

Look, he told you for a reason - because he wants you to KNOW what's happening.

There are other women in the world he will have to interact with; doctors, lawyers, cashiers, co-workers, etc. - it doesn't mean anything. And this "trusting relationship" you have, doesn't sound very trusting to me. COULD he be cheating? Well of course he could be, but it doesn't sound like he is, not from that.

Answer 6

invite to hunky male friends round for a meal and then ring him and tell jhim that you having a nice meal with to great guys but it just dinner funny how the males see no wrong in this but us women have the doubts and yes he would bloody ring thinking it would make it seem like he was doing nothing probably was seen and scared someone would tell you and if it still going on de seed some chilli peppers wearing gloves keep a few seeds near by and when he sleepy and feeling all relaxed grab his pe... gently stroke it with the bloody chill seeds in your hand sand wait for the screams of pain smile sweetly and say it must have been the chillli,s i prepared earlier so we could all have a nice romantik meal hehehehehehehe

Answer 7

It seem more of a insecurity issue and a "They were with him and I wasn't" issue. I would say that you guys should just agree to disagree. If he didn't cross any "Marital Boundaries" I would say that he didn't do anything wrong. If he came out an told you about it, he has nothing to hide. Men and women see things like this differently. Time in a man point of view is just time where as in a woman point of view is more of a possession that is valuable to only be a loted into important things. Like work, or kids, or time with their wife and not with out side influences. I would say just agree to disagree that is no real compromise in this situations.

Answer 8

You say you have a trusting relationship - but do you really??? - Your husband told you he went out to dinner with two other women. Presumably nothing happened romantically between your husband and these other women so why get so jealous???

The problem is that despite your assurances to the contrary, you do not really trust your husband. What you now have to ask yourself is - why am I so distrustful??? - has your husband given you any reason in the past not to trust him??? If not, then its your jealousy alone and you need to deal with that.

Answer 9

Are these women business acquaintances or just random women that he met?

If they are part of his work, then perhaps you are over-reacting. If they are just women he has met then perhaps you are right to have concerns.

However, he has told you that he has been out for dinner with them and therefore perhaps has nothing to hide.

Take the time to explain to him why you feel hurt about this and acknowledge the fact that you MIGHT be over-reacting and ask him how he would feel if he found out you had been out with two men for dinner that he did not know.

I hope you can sort this out and by talking strenghthen your relationship.

Answer 10

Trust him, ask him if it was a business meeting, if so let it drop don't make a problem out of nothing.
See if he can have some business friends come over for a meal get to know them.