g1 & b1 luv each other....due to family presure, g1 has to 2 get engaged to b2 & b1 has 2 get married to g2....but both are unable 2 do justice to their partners & are not happy......they both still luv each other, rather all the more & want to b together, what 2 do
2006-08-27 06:38:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, i dont follow the question.........need to put it in english
2006-08-27 06:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Michele S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as " you have to get engaged to someone you don't want" or " marry someone you don't want". If g1 & b1 love each other the way you make it sound then by all means forget about want the families want and you two get together. Life is to short to fill someone elses wish on your life. The family will come around eventually.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-27 13:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage contracted due to family pressure does not fulfill even the first condition for a true marriage, which is defined as follows:
1. A man leaves father and mother, and
2. Makes a permanent, exclusive commitment to his wife, and
3. The two become one flesh.
Anyone who is not sufficiently independent of father and mother to make their own decision about whom to marry, should not marry anyone at all.
However, if the marriages have already taken place, this is a very difficult situation. I can see arguments for either of the following two solutions:
1. Annul the present marriages immediately, on the grounds that since they were undertaken under duress, they were not true marriages in the first place, which could make any intercourse between the parties rather legalized fornication than marital relations. An argument in favor of this would be if the marriages have not been consummated yet, although not a conclusive one for the reasons described in point 2 below.
2. Remain married and faithful to the present partners, since promises have been made, which could make dissolving the marriages and contracting new marriages with the parties of one's own choice rather adultery than the honest, loving thing to do. If the marriages have been consummated, that would be an argument in favor of staying in the present relationship and choosing to love the present partner, although not a conclusive one for the reasons described in point 1 above.
Above all, you need to realize that marriage is a spiritual relationship. Since God is the one Who joins married people together, you need to read His Word and pray to find out what He expects of you personally.
And I think one thing He would have you ask is: what if you (boy1 or girl1) were in the position of boy2 or girl2? Would you want the person to keep their promise to be with you, even though they love someone else and were pressured into marrying you, or would you want the marriage to be dissolved in such circumstances?
May He bless you with great wisdom to love Him with all your heart, soul and strength and love your neighbor as yourself - to do the best thing for all concerned.
2006-08-27 14:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, call off the weddings. If you're old enough and mature enough to get married, you're old/mature enough to resist family pressures.
If you live in a culture where arranged marriages are standard and are unable or unwilling to ignore that, then marry the selected person but cut off all communication between b1 and g1.
2006-08-27 13:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited for hubby no. 2 and to pass the time, I married hubby no. 1
Now Im waiting on number 3 being married to no 2
Its a horrible cycle..
2006-08-27 13:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Little Bit the Ferret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since both of them has a companion in their lives all they have to do is to adjust with their new partner.it's not a gud idea to leave them just because they still love their past partner rather than the new one.we dont have to be selfish,move on and do your best to be a gud husband/wife with their new partner ,forget the fast .
2006-08-27 13:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to follow their hearts and forget about what their families says becuase in the long run what they feel is all that matters they also need to tell their families to back off and let them live their life
2006-08-27 13:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by kmarkelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean family pressure? If you're in the USA, we don't do things that way. We're free. Do what you want. It's your life, not theirs. Live it.
2006-08-27 13:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with the one you love...period. Why should you let your family dictate who you should be with?
2006-08-27 14:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should be together if they love eachother
2006-08-27 13:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not mix and match (legally if possible)?
2006-08-27 13:42:08 · answer #11 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋