My GF and I have been dating 2 yrs. A few months after meeting, we were pretty much always together. 6 mo. later, she moved 50 mi. away-cost-of-living reasons-knowing this would make things hard for us. She said she’d only be able to come up to my place when her kid was at her dad’s - every 2 wks. This meant I would have to do all the driving. It adds 1:30 of driving to my day, and I’m away from home lots. It’s hard, but I do it because she is important to me.
Now she gets mad when I spend the night at my place-she takes for granted that I am making all the effort to overcome the problems her decision to move created. She says since I spend so much time at her place, I should share responsibilities - like buying food and doing chores - which I do, even though the reason I’m there so much is because she never comes up to my place.
2006-08-27 06:35:12 · 5 answers · asked by Matthew B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She says I’m taking advantage- that somehow I get the benefits of living together (like listening to her girl scream all the time) without the responsibilities ( I do buy groceries, help around the house, help out with the kids ), when all along I’ve been doing everything I can to keep us together. She say I should move in, but I am not ready to live with kids and I feel she has been very unfair to me. Has she?
2006-08-27 06:35:43 · update #1
I think she is being a bit selfish..she chose to move away..if she wants you to share responsibilities then she needs to move in with you..if you are not interested in moving in with her then maybe you two have come to crossroads where you two have started going down two different paths of life...this kind of thing happens..that is why some relationships end...maybe that is where you guys are....... might be time to end it...
2006-08-27 06:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way you put it, it sounds like she's being unreasonable, but there are all ways two sides of a story, and somewhere in between them is the real one. Talk to HER, and tell her what you said on here, nicely of course....you don't want to be pissing your girl off....good luck! and remember- COMMUNICATION is KEY- w/out, your relationship will go down the tubes!!
2006-08-27 06:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not move in with her. If it's bad now, moving in will make everything worse. Seriously weigh the pros and cons of this relationship. If it's not worth it, dump her, ASAP.
2006-08-27 06:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Emily R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with her. If she's not trying to hear it and you both consent then go to counseling. If she doesn't hear any of that then I would break up with her. Sounds like this is all an excuse to cheat on you anyways.
2006-08-27 06:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just stop going to see her so much or ask her to move back with you.
2006-08-27 06:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋