My husband has been flirting around with a certain girl at his work, I walked outside at a function and they were close and talking. Nothing apparent was going on but I went off on him (away from the party)because they were on the side of the building away from all other people. Heres the 2nd half...and my main question...If your husband is cheating or even wants to cheat, while at a work function is he more likely to ignore that person after this past incident because he doesnt want to be too obvious, or will he interact friendly with her because he was so insistant that they are just friends? If he is still interested in her or anything is going on how would he interact with her when Im around. Husbands true opinions Wives with this experience anwer too please.
Thanks for all honest realistic opinions.
2006-08-27 06:15:34 · 8 answers · asked by mckyrules 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are behaviors we do not want to consciously admit -- alcoholism, drug abuse, lying, stealing, and infidelity. When you start to suspect any of these in a spouse, it is usually because you pickup on lots of subconscious indicators but deny it in your conscious mind. That is the nature of intuition, your mind is adjusting to the undesirable reality. He is cheating with the girl you are talking about. Is he having sex with her? I don't know. But he is entering into an emotional intimacy that is inappropriate for a married man. If this was the first time you ever noticed this, then maybe he is just cheating is his heart and mind. But if this a pattern that is making you wonder, I am sure it has gone further than fantasizing. Sorry.
2006-08-29 08:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by nathanielgpalmer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married but I've dated a married man and men often act friendly toward his mistress in front of his wife, because he doesn't want her to feel like he's ignoring her while your are there. they will find a way to get together and talk. He may have introduced her as a friend or just a co worker but it's more too it. A true sign that your husband is cheating is when his routine changes and he can't remember what lie he told you to begin with. I was his mistress for a year and his wife never knew anything because he would always introduce me as his brother's girlfriend. I even did some baby sitting for them, and while she would be in the bathroom taking a shower we would have time to get a quickie in. She never caught us and she never knew. It still hasn't ended because now we have a daughter together. I should feel bad but I don't because I am in love with some one's husband.
2006-08-27 06:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by NETTA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with grey wolf on the accusing you of doing the same thing. look for stuff like constant running late coming home from work or repeated lateness on same days of the week. if he laughs when you accuse him or looks away when he answers you......he's probably lieing to you. you could pull the "well if she is just a friend then let's invit her to supper" he will probably go crazy at ways to get you to drop that idea because it will make him uncomfortable that is unless he's got some big kuhunas and thinks he may get to be with both of you at the same time. hope it works out girl
2006-08-27 06:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I caught my husband on the "side" of a building to a person I know that he has been flirting with, I would most definitely know that there is more to this story than he is letting on. I would think that he would ignore her when you were around if he know's you are suspicious and is trying to hide something.
2006-08-27 06:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by allamerican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no set way every man is going to react to having his wife and a potential fling in the same room. He may try to ignore her if he feels guilty, but if he's been openly flirting with her at work, it doesn't sound like anyone's keeping secrets there.
2006-08-27 06:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably thinking of starting an affair, men are not usually interested in female friends, unless they are single. Friendships for a married couple is usually another couple. Opposite sex friends for only one of the spouse is not helathy.
2006-08-27 06:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my husband (who by the way I divorced) I thought was cheating on me I did my own investigation..#1: everywoman has her own signature smell..by that I mean perfume..I f he smells like perfume and tells you it is his aftershave lotion or it must have come from Sally Lou who he hugged. Then maybe but not likely.
If he starts making all sorts of reasons why he is an hour late, then2 hours so on and so forth. well take it from there.
some men are just natural flirts and mean nothing by it..You have to be the judge of him not us on here...
2006-08-27 06:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by trina k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disappearing for periods,accusing you,trying to start fights,probably be the same as a women doing it
2006-08-27 06:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋