i have a friend that is my room mate and when i went into my apartment he was in the bathroom putting on make up he was in a wig and everything he even had false boobs he had a pink sweatshirt on and had a skirt and pantyhose and heels it was really feaky i don't think he is gay i know that he has never had a girlfriend i am just really confused
2006-08-27 06:13:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
1. Respect and maintain his confidentiality; insist that he not do that when you're expected to be around to prevent future awkward moments.
2. Immediatly and politley expand your circle of friends, if it's really bugging you find a new room and/or roomie.
2006-08-30 14:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by yorlooksmybiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your homophobia get in the way of a friendship by pre-judging him. I have a very good friend who I have known for over 30 years. When I first met him I found out he liked to crossdress... now, I could have just dropped the friendship and that would have been the end of it, but I figured that, if it didn't bother him to do it then why should it bother me if he crossdressed.
We have been friends for years and he is anything but gay... a wife 3 kids and a very manly type guy... who just likes to wear panties and make-up on occasion... and... HEY... it's 2006... so who really cares what he does in privacy?
2006-08-27 06:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi JJ
Just like to tell you a little bit of experience i have had with this issue with my grandma's husband. Well my grandma's husband is a little younger than my grandma, around 18 years different. Well he has been cross dressing for years, & was a mistake my grandma find out. Well when my grandma move home, she was clearing the shed at the bottom of the garden, & find a bin bags full of clothes,stockings & shoes. & she knew her husband always liked to spend time here, so she asked him. Well things before went missing from my grandmas drawers etc. Anyway..he confessed & told my grandma he was a cross dresser, my grandma was shocked, & really upset. Can you imagine the news? Well my grandma not talk to him for ages..in time she come round, it taken her ages for to do that. She does let him cross dress, but he took it too far sometimes, wanting more & more. She ended having to say something to him. Saying he can & can't do things, & not take things too far in fron of her. He does go out with friends who are the same has he is. & they not gay also. Usually you find cross dressers who i have come across have not been gay but like to dress as woman. I used to go in gay clubs, & the only place for cross dressers to get accepted was in clubs/pubs like that. & i had a couple of male friends who was in to that, & was also married. I know is really hard for a guy to accept for his friend/part of the family who does cross dressing. I know will be a big shock to you. Only you can accept this what your friend does, or not accept this, but seriously think about it, i know some of my family are prejudiced with my grandmas husband & the majority are my uncles/male. The ball is in your court, seriously think about. For your friend not to have a girlfriend also, not mean he is gay, may mean he probably wants a partner to understand, is all...but i can imagine it can be freakish for some woman, would be for me. But they be some woman who likes that sort of thing. All i say is, it not make your friend a bad person. Try to talk to your friend? Maybe will be hard. But seriously think about it. But if you allow this, then you say to him , do this, don't do this, & make things clear. Good luck. Hope this helps you.
2006-08-27 06:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Diane B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is there a chance he was just dressing up? and even if he is a crossdresser so what? it's 2006 get with the times. Don't freak out its no big deal. He's obviously not gay unless he's in denial. Let him be. If he comes up to you about it then try to be understanding and accepting.
2006-08-27 06:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by andthatshypocricy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not your problem, but because you are friends then better to ask him directly in a nice way if you want to know the fact.
May be has his own reasons like joining performance Art act. any way knowing the fact would not let you be confused ,and can manage the relation in a proper way.
2006-08-27 06:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by mangaya2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it such a issue ? he is still the same guy he is still your friend only now you know what he doe's when you ain't around but so what it is not a crime why not try talking to him he may need a friend and someone to talk to
2006-08-27 06:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable enough, ask him about it. If he refuses to tell you, then just leave it alone. Some things are better left unknown.
2006-08-27 06:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by I L♥VE YOU! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of males crossdress and are completly straight. If you are truly his friend you'll support him.
2006-08-27 06:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by chairkiss_silver 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and if he is gay be affraid and set down some rules so he doesnt try anything
2006-08-27 06:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no big deal. Bring up the subject to him if it really bothers you.
2006-08-27 08:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Allison M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋