I am unhappy , frustrated , got no motivation to live. My childhood destroyed by my father because of his extremely high expectations. He didn't let me go to school. So never had any friends. In high school, i couldn't mingle up with classmates because of ferocious nature i had developed by then. He didn't let me play even. I regularly got beatings for studies sake. After getting into college , i thought i am in better place. But now , my true love of 8 years whom i got in high school (perhaps my being good in academics fascinated her) got raped and has infected HIV +ve.
I feel terrible.
I am a little bit psychic too. I am short-tempered and shy. I don't talk much to people cause i really don't trust anybody and always am scared of my feelings being hurt.
I feel terrible.
And i am not going to leave this girl as she is the only friend i have. The thing is i want to live happily and have satisfied life. Is there a way i can have satisfied life despite having so many troubles?
2006-08-27 05:27:39 · 13 answers · asked by ravi s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To fireinside :
I am not lying. This problem has many aspects. My gf got infected due2blood transmission. She had got heart surgery 1month before the rape. I didn't mention it coz i didn't think it important that how she got infected. I had gone2school just for two years in high school,when my age was 14-15. There are other issues related2rape.
2006-08-27 07:12:41 · update #1
I was raised the same way. My girlfriend didn't go through what yours did, but the story with her was much the same. The good news is that there is hope!! There is a greater life to be expected. It is simple to get to that life, but it takes patience. The rules are easy to follow and eventually, if you follow them, will bring about happiness and friends. Believe it or not, your kindergarten Teacher was right.... Smile all the time and Be Polite. Simply, that's all it takes. Life is too short to be held up with phobias and fears. Stop blaming your childhood. Yes, they did you wrong. However, you have to be man enough to move on. Keep it simple, smile and be polite. Good Luck
2006-08-27 05:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn!!!! You had a shitty childhood. But first you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop feeling like a victim. Oh this happened to me and this and this and this. But you survived. That's the most important thing. You need to talk to some one. Think about getting yourself into therapy. As for the girl. That is very sweet that you want to be there with her. Be very careful. Make sure she is getting treatment. If she is really your true love you guys could have a wonderful relationship. With the right treatment and a c-section you guys could even have healthy children. If you wanted that but it would be in the distant future. First you need to work out your issues. She doesn't need any of the baggage that you are caring right now. Get some therapy. It will do you some good.
2006-08-27 05:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries_r_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also unhappy with my life too. I'm unemployed, have some friends and not much of a social/love life, no car or job, and live with my mom. I'm 30. You just have to go with the flow and make do with the rest of it. Don't go against the grain. If you need someone to talk to, maybe you should get some counseling. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-08-27 05:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you need to try some therapy and you may need some meds too.
have you been tested for HIV?
you can overcome many troubles and have a satisfied life....your outlook needs to change and you need to identify what is important to you....asking people you don't know on yahoo if you can be happy doesn't bode well.
we have all had obstacles...that's just part of life....everyone has tragedy.
you can be happy. you can. you need to investigate different avenues to happiness.
2006-08-27 05:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by lucky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given your upbringing, your feelings don't surprise me. Try to read "anxiety and phobia workbook" - especially the part about your "inner child" There are exercises you can do to help you work through some of the feelings you have. If you can afford it, a good counselor will help.
2006-08-27 05:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by marty m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Focus your life's direction on getting and achieving not for yourself but for those you love. The joy and contentment is sometimes found only in knowing that you are there to be relied on by those people you care so much about.
2006-08-27 05:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur lieing...i looked at your other q's and one said that you girlfriend got HIV by a blood transfusion. Then you said that you girlfriend wanted to marry the person that reaped her and now there dateing. Another one said that you have not been in contackt with her for maney years. "He didn't let me go to school" but then you say "In high school..." wich would indacat that you did go to school. So yeah...dont lie unless you you can pull it off.
EDIT: Ok read my e-mail thing.
2006-08-27 06:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You need to find a professional counselor to help you work through all these issues.
2006-08-27 05:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by misskit22kr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely need a therapist! If you have health insurance they'll cover several visits. Do it and good luck!
2006-08-27 05:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Igor Jivatofski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would recommend reading ,The Gift of Change" by Marianne Williamson.i read it when i was unhappy and it opened my eyes to different perspectives,while uplifting my spirits:)
2006-08-27 05:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by bumblebee_chola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋