Would you tell him that you married someone else to give yourself another chance? BUT...you also SEPARATED this other guy (#2) because you realized he could never make you happy. You went back to your country and that's when # 1 contacts. You have to tell him BY EMAIL, since he is in the US and you're in S.America.
2006-08-27 04:56:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on why you broke up in the first place. If you got out because it was unhealthy (abuse, cheating, trust issues), then there's no point going back. If not, go for it. Sometimes you can meet your soul mate but the timing won't be right. But if you have faith, it will come back to you. And it seems to have come back to you.
2006-08-27 05:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nina 2 Niña 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell #1 you were married but separated now because your marriage on a rebound basis did not work. I have two different answeres for you.
First I have to know.... 1) Did #1 contact you just out of friendship? Meaning, did he leave no hint what so ever of a possible romanitc relationship?
Or, 2) Did #1 say he wanted to pick up where you two left off with your relationship?
Ok.... solution to MY question #1: Tell #1 now that you are separated from your marriage to #2, you are ready to move on and you are so blessed to have #1 contact you because at this time in your life you need a close friend that truly understands you.
Solution to MY question #2: Tell #1 you married #2 on the rebound from HIM and that you also could not get #1 out of your mind and heart. That you are willing to give both you and him a 2nd chance at happiness together. But, after 3 years you would like to take it slow and give yourselves a chance to be reaquainted.
This will work out one or two ways. You will ethier re-kindle your romance or you will be the closest and best of friends. Good luck to you dear. Not every one gets a second chance at happiness.
2006-08-27 12:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time I've heard of this happening it's because the guy has just been dumped, feels lonely and rejected, and has always had you as his emotional fall-back 'cause he knows you love him.
Yes, I'm cynical, but the best advice I was ever given concerning relationships is this:
If it didn't work the first time, it probably won't work the second time.
Why has he waited 3 years to tell you this? I'd do some background research on him if I were you.
2006-08-27 12:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Im a guy, I think I can tell you what he may mean.
Many guys never forget certain women. Does it mean they want to marry them? who knows, but at least they wonder what a life with them would be. Although Im happy I rememeber 3 others always. For me, its because they were true friends.
My Question- what do you lose by a resoponse that admits you are not involved at the moment? zero- If you don't, you will always wonder. Leave out lots of details- You only have one life.
2006-08-27 12:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are separated, but you don't get to see him until you're divorced if that's your plan. And be more careful before you get married next time.
2006-08-27 12:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond at all---after 3 years, there's too much water under the bridge. He probably wants something from you anyway---just let him go on wondering
2006-08-27 12:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by erieshoredweller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said. the one you loved the most. which also means you haven't forgot him.give both you and him a chance.
2006-08-27 11:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by tom,dick,harry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything. If he is interested in rekindling something with you and you are interested too....then just go with it.
2006-08-27 11:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys belong together go back to him
2006-08-27 12:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him to get lost because if he really liked you he would have called way earlier
2006-08-27 11:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by kb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋