My husband and I were together for fifteen years, separated amicably, and we've gotten along fine as co-parents of our two children. we split eight years ago, but neither of us has ever sued for divorce, probably because neither of us has yet had a relationship leading to marriage. We did go through the clerk of court to establish child support payments, but we've always taken care of the children's needs as they come up, each of us paying what we think is our fair share. We no longer have any joint property of any kind. If a couple's been apart for many years, and it's clear that neither has intention of ever reconciling, is there a way to just file some papers and pay a fee without going in front of a judge? We live in NC.
2006-08-27 04:50:47 · 7 answers · asked by joe friday's grrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As marriage is a legal thing I'd have to say no. :)
2006-08-27 04:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not legally, anyway. You should try a "do it yourself" divorce. A few hundred dollars and filing some paperwork at the courthouse should do it. In NC I think it's a year after filing but you should check with the clerk of the court or do the research online. Divorces aren't like common-law marriages where if you are together for several years you are considered married. You should spend the money before your great unmarried relationship goes sour.
2006-08-27 11:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by thislifeisnotforme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF it truly is amicable -- go to one of the local lawyers together and get a simple divorce -- and spell out the items each of you have now and let it get finished for good.
The real answer is NO -- you can not be considered as Divorced for any purposes (including income taxation) without having that formal paper in your hands. So finish what was already started and get it done once and for all. DO NOT let this hang out in the open for any longer.
2006-08-27 11:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get an attorney to file the paperwork and he (hubby) could sign before the hearing so its considered non-contested. He may not have to come then, but because you are the petitioner, you may have to give sworn testimony for court records. Good Luck! Throw a divorce party anyway afterwards!
2006-08-27 11:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your country and legislation. If you were married by signing a legal document and received a married license, you will have to take the legal path to annul your marriage. If you lived together as married couples without a legal agreement, or married for instance in Africa countries, by means of a traditional agreement, It is not necessary (again it depends on your country) I encourage you to gain legal advice.
2006-08-27 12:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have to file for divorce, but I don't think that you have to go to court, as long as neither of you are fighting the divorce
2006-08-27 11:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still have to go before the judge. you still need to file the papers.
i am so glad that someone is adult enough to think of the kids and be amicible to their ex for that reason
2006-08-30 23:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋