Within the last few years I have found myself attracted to men more and more. Sometimes I am attracted to women but I am attracted to men 95% of the time. I have never really put my self out there. Does anybody have any advice for a first-timer? (as in never asked a guy out)
There is this one guy that I kinda like but I don't think he really knows it I could not stop thinking about him for about two weeks after I met him. I don't know really if it is lust or love.
Thanks for any advice.
2006-08-27 04:42:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just ask.
First dates these days are not the big deal they once were. You don't have to go all-out planning anything extravagant.
Ask him to go to an event with you (concert, auto show, street fair, etc.) or just out for coffee or drinks.
If he's not at all interested, he'll say no thanks. If he is, and he is available, he'll go with you, and you've got it made in the shade.
2006-08-27 06:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a little hard, if you don't know if HE is gay, too. If you are too blunt/obvious, and he's not gay, he might knock u down! But why don't u just suggest u go out for a coffe/drink/film and play it from there, just as friends, and if there is something there, it'll surface sooner or later. U could touch upon the subject, for instance by asking if he's read the novel "the Line of Beauty" by Hollinghurst, or other gay-related thing, and listen for clues. .. Or ask if he has seen "Brokeback Mountain"- maybe that's a better idea, because it's so famous. And hear what he says.
If it's lust or love... That I can't answer. Anyway, go with the flow.
Otherwise, if it doesn't work with him, go to gay bars ..?
2006-08-27 12:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kim Linklater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it. But I think you need to find out if he is intersted first. I mean you guys can still hang out as friends just ask him if he wants to go to a movie or something sometime you would be surprised how far just that can go.
2006-08-27 12:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by college student 1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he would like to hang out sometime, or go wherever and see where it goes from there, once youu two start talking who knows where it will lead, but you will never know until you try
2006-08-27 11:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. if you have his phone number, send him a text message and say you're bored and want to go to a movie, and ask him if he'd like to go with you since all ur friends are busy.
start that way. the time u will get to spend alone will clarify a lot.
always go step by step
2006-08-27 12:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the guy. Get to know him and see if he puts out any vibes that you can pick uo. If they are good, just go with it. Not much else you can do but just roll with the way things go.
2006-08-27 11:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by neongreensugar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is lust but still ask him out - like hey do you fancy going out for a drink - you only live once and if he says no then move on
2006-08-27 11:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by boo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh wow
Just ask him out, if you are sure that he is single, an that you like him, the worst is that he says no, which wont kill you. Keep hope alive.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-27 11:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by bonycask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are mixed up and need to sort it out first before you jump into a new relationship.
but good luck anyway!!
2006-08-27 11:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same way you ask anyone out. strike up conversation, dance, whatever. depending on the situation.
good luck!
2006-08-27 14:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by kittens 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋