Is a young man being a gentleman a thing of the past?

Answer 1

kind of yes, Most people aren't being raised to show respect and polite manners as much as they use to. The busier parent's lives get, I think the fewer and fewer "gentlemen" will be around. That's not to say there aren't any out there. It's just hard to find them or atleast to a point nowadays because most people assume that there is an alternative motive behind being a gentleman. I like to consider myself a gentleman, one who does curtious deeds and shows the utmost respect to almost all out of the shear kindness of my heart, and I'm am sure there are many others like me, but alas tis true we are a dying breed.

Answer 2

I had a long answer written and my internet connection went down and I lost it so I will just give a short answer.


No it is not a thing of the past. It is thinking that it is that could give free rein to all the louts out there who would'nt know good manners if it jumped up and bit them.The world would be an awful place without gentlemen.The louts can have the ladettes and best of luck to them but almost every young woman dreams of meeting a gentleman.

Answer 3

being a gentleman = being a bi.tch

humans are humans. i don't treat humans differently because of their gender. i'm not gonna open a door for a woman if i'm in front. i'll do the logical thing: walk through and hold it as i'm walking through.....i would do that for any human though

regarding paying meals: me and the girl have always split the bill. again, logical. the reason this was done in the past was because women couldn't get jobs that paid as well as men. today, men and women earn the same. get with the times

i'm not an asshole. i'll give up my seat to a pregnant woman on a bus, or help a mother getting a pram up stairs but i won't comprimise and behave like a little bi.tch because it's seen as good manners

a lot of other things that are perceived as "gentlemanly" i just consider to be informal. like calling people sir. it's like, i know my bosses name, i get on with him, and i work my hardest so why should i rfer to him as "sir"?

most people i know who call themselves "gentlemen" are just close-minded guys with banal personalities

Answer 4

I hope not.....being a gentleman is living to a certain standard of behavior. This is far preferable to the loutishness we seem to have today. It takes effort to be loutish and skill to be a gentleman. By and large a woman likes gentlemanly behaviour which, by the way, has nothing to do with being a wimp,or being uncool, It shows you have class, intelligence and breeding. All things despised by the ignorant, the uninformed, and the downright stupid morons who think quality manners sucks. NOT TRUE. By being a gentleman you have grown up, you have mastered the finer points of living and etiquette, and because of it you gain a lot of respect.
I hasten to add this isnt a pre-requisite for respect but it sure does help

Answer 5

I think that political correctness has killed this off a bit. I still try to be a gentleman but find that a lot of people now see it as sarcasm at times. Stepping aside from a door and saying after you seems patronising if you are a huge punk and pulling a chair out for a woman is deemed embarrassing. It's difficult to tell what is polite and what is offencive these days.

Answer 6

I know a few actually and I always make a point of saying thank you and appreciating it when they do. I like being treated like a lady so I try to act like one. That's not to say that I don't still go down the pub and get rat arsed every now and again but even then if a man holds a door open for me I'll still say thank you.

I think that sadly good manners are generally in decline but if we keep them up and teach them to the next generation then they will not be lost.

I especially like it when a man walks on the outside of the pavement... I know there's no horse siht splatter to protect our pretty dresses from these days but it's the thought that counts.

Answer 7

Part of being a man is being a gentleman. Unfortunately, the feminization of young men coupled with the "liberalization" of women has caused a decline in chivalry.

Answer 8

Yes it is. I try to be polite to everyone and basically getting shat on from a great height by loads of people who take advantage of your good manners. They feel they are exempt from saying even as much as a thank you, and then we get people wondering why being a gentleman is in decline...why do you think? People these days just want to look after number 1 and don't really care much about anyone else.

Answer 9

I truly think that the act of being a gentleman is becoming a lost art.

Then again, it's hard to be a gentleman to a woman wearing a belly shirt, a leopard print thong who has her nose pierced.

It's all in the perception now, isn't it?

Answer 10

I think the old fashioned idea of a Gentleman was a man who didn't have to seek gainful employment and lived off of a private income (i.e. inheritance.) I'm sure there are some left in the higher echelons of society, but the UK isn't over-blessed with them.