What if there are many quarrels and disagreements after marriage? What if you don't love him as much he loves you? Should you wait a few more years before deciding? Or should you just trust and believe that love and marital bliss will grow with time?
2006-08-27 04:40:51 · 11 answers · asked by silver lining 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a man who has weathered with me through difficult storms in life and prepared to stand by me no matter what happens. A soul understanding another soul inside out.
God has been merciful.
2006-08-28 21:14:37 · update #1
Interesting question, because I did exactly what you're asking. I do love my husband, but not as much as he loves me. I chose him because he offered stability and dependability, something I never had before. He is a wonderful man who cherishes me and I choose this above being in love with someone who does not treat me well or makes me feel like I'm not good enough. I am comfortable in my skin around my husband and he always makes me feel beautiful and wanted and loved. Hope this answers some of your questions.
2006-08-27 05:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly and from the heart if you don't share the same kind of love then there isn't a marriage and that is were the quarrels and disagreements come from. I don't believe in divorce but I don't believe in torture either and it must be hard to be in that situation. I don't think love and bliss are going to come from this union and that you need to honest with your self and yes move on!It sounds like you both will be better off a part and it gives you both a chance to go out and find the person that you will be happy with.
You are faced with a hard choice to make good luck to you and remember you are never alone.
Love, light and peace to you!
2006-08-27 05:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't define "troubled life", If you mean a troubled relationship, there's a big difference. But the answer to both is still no, marriage is a lifelong committment. Each of you has to be willing to give 100% to that lifestyle, its not easy and it can be very hard at times. You have to really know yourself inside, before you can even begin to know if you can make that committment. Which ever way you go, I wish you the best of luck. Signed a "two-time loser at marriage"
2006-08-27 04:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by timothy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't grow over time if it's not there already. Getting married does not solve any problems in a flawed relationship, it only creates more. If you want to get divorced in 2 or 3 years, go ahead and get married. If it doesn't feel right now, it won't be right down the road. Just because you don't want to get married doesn't mean you don't love him. Stay together by all means, just don't rush into getting married.
2006-08-27 04:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by pwoodrow2354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not! That is NO decision to marry. All that you mention make perfect sense if that is WHY you married.
Love and marital bliss is not a fairy tale, that simply happens.
One marries another, with love, communication, compromise, respect, committmant, and compatibility. From there grows an endearing lifetime relationship.
2006-08-27 04:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is a good provider, a loving husband, is financially capable of providing for you and you can see a future with him. Then, why not go ahead and marry him. Marriage is not only based on love you. Its a big part but not the only thing.
2006-08-27 04:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea what your relationship was before the marriage. I do believe in the vows. But I also believe in being true to yourself, your feelings and wants. I always suggest talking first, counseling second and if all fails then do what you have to, to find happiness in your life. Good luck
2006-08-27 04:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry the wrong person. And, if you do find yourelf married to the wrong person, get out. It won't improve. It will just weigh you down like an anchor.
2006-08-27 04:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE don't get married under such circumstances!!! You will regret it forever. I married someone I didn't love enough, because I thought I could create a happier home and family with him than the one I was in. It didn't work. Trust me on this.
2006-08-27 04:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by joe friday's grrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek help because you may have got married thinking it will take the troubles away and that isnt the answer go found out why there is so much trouble
2006-08-27 04:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋