My boyfriend tries "touching" me while he THINKS I am sleeping. He also tried to put my hand on his dick while he thought i was sleeping. I thought he was decent. We've been together 4 years and have a daughter together. Why would be do this? I caught him red handed TWICE and both times he cclaims he was sleeping and didnt know what was going on. But I KNEW he wasnt sleeping. I am very disturded and am seriously considering leaving him.
2006-08-27 04:11:48 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The sick thing is he is going this while I am sleeping. And its true, we dont have sex anymore but its b/c I am not sexually attracted to him anymore. And we have been having problems for a long time. This just threw me over the edge!
2006-08-27 04:17:33 · update #1
Yes, I may be the one with the problem. Our relationship is dead and I dont feel comfortable with him touching me. I guess that tells me something. I would usually love that, but not with him. Maybe we would be better off as friends!?
2006-08-27 04:34:23 · update #2
You need a frank discussion, tell him how this behavior upsets you , and ask why he is doing it. May be a little more action between the sheets is all that is wanted.
2006-08-27 04:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't possible that you are not being open minded enough when you are awake, so that he feels like the only way he can explore things WITH YOU sexually is while you are sleeping? Or maybe that he KNOWS you are not really sleeping and is testing the waters to find out what you will and will not do? After 4 years though Hon, you might need to rethink this relationship. If he cant talk to you about anything, and feels the need to deny what is going on with him, then you don't have the level of intimacy one would expect after that length of time. By intimacy, I do NOT mean sex. I mean closeness and communication. You said you have a daughter with this man, well then you really need to put some more work into this relationship or get out of it. Talk to your man gently and see if he responds. Really listen to what he has to say, without interrupting him, and don't outright refuse to consider what he is saying. You may both be right, and you may both be wrong. You'll never know until you open both your mouth and your ears!!
2006-08-27 04:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by QT Cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt leave him for something like this. He is horny. Maybe he needs more attention. The fact that you have been with him for 4 years and this is the only way he acts in this manner, would make me think that he has a fetish about watching you sleep. It may not sound healthy and normal, but more fetishes don't. I would just maybe play up on this idea in the bedroom and do something like this when you guys are intimate. Make sure you tell him that you do not want him to do that when you really sleep and hopefully he will respect that.
2006-08-27 04:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! He's NOT a pervert!! Geez, you have been together 4 year's, you have a kid together. Sex is a part of a relationship, be happy it you he's trying to have sex with & not someone else. Your NOT normal if you think he's being a pervert!!!!
2006-08-27 04:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO a lot of blokes say mucky things with their mates and stuff but not like that, sounds like a pedo. Definitely not normal never met anyone as bad as that, you want to make sure you don't get pregnant by him, could you honestly say you would be comfortable leaving him alone in the house with your child. Definite pedo
2016-03-17 03:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"The sick thing is he is going this while I am sleeping. And its true, we dont have sex anymore but its b/c I am not sexually attracted to him anymore."
True, it's an odd thing; but given your not sexually attracted to him, why would you be with him?
If I was with a girl like yourself, and she had not given me nookie for a while, (despite the child) I'd have to deeply consider leaving you. If the circumstances is not going to change, why use this as an excuse/scapegoat to the real problem ie your relationships with him is no-longer legit.
While I'm not really keen with his behaviour, I'd say your indecesion (despite this incident) is not doing much. No insult, I just find your reasoning a bit odd.
2006-08-27 11:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been living with him for the past 4 years, had a daughter from him and you are shocked, surprised and want to leave him because he touched you and placed your hand on his dick twice? what kind of relation do you think you have? brother and sister or lovers' relation? I think it is you who is the "pervert".
2006-08-27 04:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no he's not a pervert..he's sexually attracted to you! shame on him! :-p
seriously,,u seem kinda cold and mean...its better that he wants u to touch him and not someone else.
i've guided other girls hands down there and thy thought it was a cute way to get things going..they usually say stuff like "what should i do with this?" or is this what u want?? and start playing around
2006-08-27 11:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the 2 of you should be together - If you are going to be so tight Knickered about a feel.. 4 years ..god ! you shouldnt even notice him doing it .. take a sleeping pill and chill..
2006-08-27 04:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of you really need to sit down and have a conversation about each others needs and wants. I will say that there is nothing wrong with each of you individually, but the way both you are getting around practicing it needs attention. Plus, since your needs are in conflict, it will need to be resolved between two of you.
2006-08-27 04:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋