Ok I'm very,extremely shy and I guess my self esteem is a little low,anyone know how I can overcome it?

Question

Well when schools starts I will be a freshman and I'm kind of nervous & excited.All through middle school I was known as the quietest & shyest person,which is true.& I never really had friends just asscociates.I was extremely lonely and cried often,& I havent been happy since elementry school. For my freshman year I want to change I want to be happy,make friends,& be out going with a high self esteem, but it's so hard..

Answer 1

party make new friends and introduce yourself to people laugh and enjoy life and be yourself

Answer 2

Just talk to people and by that, I don't mean, talk to the "cool" kids. Strike up a conversation with someone you normally won't talk to especially someone else who seems lonely and out of place. There will be a lot out there so make your move now. It will be much harder to make friends after your freshman year since that is when cliques are made. Perhaps you can strike up a conversation with the person who sits next to you in the different classes. Hold your head high and don't crouch over. You don't want others to know that you are shy although there really isn't anything wrong with it. If worse comes to worse and you're known as the shy kid in this school, don't beat yourself over this, but understand that this is only a phase. People are usually more forgiving the older you get. It's a harsh life at school so I wish you the best of luck!!

Answer 3

Don't worry about it so much! I used to be like you, and I still kind of am (argh, I totally dislike it when some of my guy friends say that I'm getting shyer and stuff!). I'm going to start my sophomore year, so here are some tips for ya, that I did during my first year of high school; I hope they help you as well:

- Join a sport. Do something you are good at, or go for a sport that you might be interested in learning. Not only will you get the chance to do something fun, but you will get to meet other people, some who you will undoubtedly be freinds with.

-Join a club. If there are any clubs out there at your high school that you think sounds fun and worth it, then join it! You'll meet people and get to know them better; maybe you'll have lotsa things in common!

-Don't rush it. I used to be like you, and I thinked of being shy and the opposite of outgoing, which usually bought me down. So you should focus on doin' other things, like listening to music, drawing, or taking a hobby. And this "getting to be more outgoing" stuff does take some time. So while you are waiting (don't worry; I'm waiting too) for time to change you, try something out!

-Wear a smile, be your own self. People will come up to you for who you are, so don't pretend to be someone you're not.

-Don't sweat it. When in a conversation with a peer, just be yourself and talk about interests, such as school, hobbies, what they did he summer, favorite pets, favorite music type/artists, and so on.

I wish you luck, freshman! Good luck & have a great first year of high school.

Answer 4

Be real brave and step out of your comfort zone. Join a club or some activity after school where you can talk to people your own age. A lot of times when you join a club, people sometimes come to you. Comment on clothing because that's always a good way to start coming out. You know, like saying; "Your shoes are so cute.,Where did you get them from?" How about asking different people what they did over the summer? Ask questions about school, like what do think of our teacher. I was real shy and real lonely, but I actually thought it was because I couldn't connect with anyone in school. Don't believe that, I was wrong. Self esteem; look in the mirror everyday and say I am special, then go out and believe it. Go where the popular kids go, that's a good way to meet people.Friday night football games, pep rallies, and dances.Just try,you can do it.

Answer 5

You sound like me back then - I feel for ya. But there is hope!
I am now really outgoing, love to have fun, make fun of myself (and everyone else, in good natured fun - usually).
Try joining an extra curricular activity, acting or choir - NOTHING WILL GET YOU OVER BEING SHY than being asked to do a solo or speak onstage! Good luck.
Oh, and have some fun. When you start to feel lonely, if you don't have anyone you can call, get out of the house and do something - even if it's just a walk or a bike ride. Go people watch (that's always fascinating).

Answer 6

My daughter at 10 was and fretted over this since the rest of our fam are loud, extroverts, very personable and sociable. As a realtor I meet and greet every day so suggested that she come with me to my open houses and serve drinks this was a start on her way to come out of her shell. it took a couple years for her to even take me up on my offer. My suggestion to you is to volunteer with young underprivleged or orphaned children 3-6yrs. Most important they need adults to care for and love them...and they are most grateful. You can be yourself and ease your way out of your shell. Then move on from there....good luck.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Think positive. I had the same conflict, but you know what, I started thinking positive and approached people. Dont let others approach you. YOU approach them. Be yourself and everything will be fine. I promise. It works. Thats exactly what I did.