If I go for a casual sex,is it a sin ? Because i am tottaly dissatisfied in sex.She is physically /mentally 100% ok.
2006-08-27 03:52:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is the real reason that she wants sex only 1 or 2 times a month? Is it because she is too busy with life? Or is it because she feels that she has to do it out of obligation? Chances are that it is not a priority in her mind, because if it were, it would be more frequent. She could be preoccupied with other things, such as keeping the house clean, her work, kids, etc.
One thing to try would be to help her with things around the house that she typically does, or has done, to put her mind at ease. If she typically does a lot of the chores, you could try doing some of them for her to show her that you value her and want to relieve some of the stress in her life. If she can relax, and see that you GENUINELY want to help her feel more relaxed and that you care for her, (aka "meeting her needs") she will be more inclined to doing the same for you (aka "being more interested in sex")
So you may have to wear that apron more often, and push a vacuum a few more times, but hey, if it gets you more action in the sack, it's worth it!!!
2006-08-27 04:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by TallMountainGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a sin. Please do not do this. I'm guessing your wife is in her 30s also. Did you ever think how tired she is taking care of two kids? I don't know if she works also or is a stay at home mom, but either way - she's pooped! I can tell you from personal experience that when you are physically exhausted your sex drive goes to zero. How about helping her in someway: hiring a housecleaner to come in once a week, even if she doesn't work, just to give her a break; hire a babysitter to come in so many days a week, again to give her a break. A weekend away for just the two of you without the kids would be nice, too. Please also try counseling. Good luck.
2006-08-27 11:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by gator girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is vitally important to a relationship! I highly encourage you to remind her of this by doing some research on what sex does for you, your health and your piece of mind. Share with her what you found! Google it!.. There are also great ideas at swingersanswers.org
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I don't think people realize how crucially important it is to have sex at least a couple times a week (of course a couple of times a day would more than OK with me) I find that during "That Week" it can cause unsurmountable stress in our relationship!
It really is a RELEASE, a HUGE RELEASE, of stress and tension.. Get oral, get excited and have fun with it :D
Just remember .. Get all your ducks in a row, (research the benefits) and approach her in a firm (no pun intended) gentle way. (is there such a thing?) :D
2006-08-27 10:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by StarchIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
needless to say you are married and yes casual sex is wrong !!!! If shes not putting out and you have talked with her and there are no changes then I suggest you divorce her and move on because you cant stay faithful if someone is doing you dirty like that ,after all you're still a man!!! This is a tough one but I really wish you the best!!!
2006-08-27 10:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, dont go messin around cause there are to many diseases out there to bring home, even with a condom, your not 100% protected.
Win and dine her, take her out, dress up and go dancing, do the romantic things you did when you were younger. Another good one is make sure you help around the house cause things she has to follow you and the kids around and clean up, she maybe just flat out tired at the end of the day.
Be sexy, be romantic and see how quick the spark lights back up in your lives.
2006-08-27 10:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if she left you and took the kids with her??? If you woke up tomorrow and they were gone and the house was quiet??
Maybe she isn't interested because she doesn't like the way you do it. Maybe she is exhausted from having a job and keeping track of kids and cleaning house.
2006-08-27 11:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u asked her why shes not interested? u need to try to find the cause of the problem rather than trying to fix it by having casual sex would u want to ruin ur relationship with ur wife let alone ur children if they found out? please think about it carefully before u do something stupid
2006-08-27 10:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by brandy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels like the love making is one sided. try romancing her a little, and put efort into foreplay, which can b as simple as cooking diner for her, then asking how her day was while massaging her shoulders or something. and make sure she's happy and ur fufilling as her sexual needs and desires.
2006-08-27 11:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife about your sexual relationship. In your position, I'd say "I need not only a mother for my kids, I also need a wife."
2006-08-27 10:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that. Do not do that. Try every possible way to fix your problem other than this.
2006-08-27 10:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by heather#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋