I'm in the military, currently deployed in Iraq and soon returning to my duty station in Guam. I'm going thru a divorce & just want what is best for my daughter. I know my daughter loves her mother very much and vice versa. I have been gone from her for almost 18 months, so my daughter only gets to hear my voice on the phone and see me in pictures. I don't want to take her away from her mother but I feel that love isn't enough to take care of her. She has no job, has a son that I am providing for, even if I gave her the house, she could not pay the mortgage even with 1/6 of my basic pay as child support. I offered to let her live in the house free of rent vice child support so our daughter, her son, & her could have a place to live that they already call home. I'm stationed overseas & my Command is willing to work with me if I was to get sole custody. She has a track record for making horrible decisions, including bringing a drug dealer to my home while I was deployed in the Iraq 05.
2006-08-27 03:27:21 · 10 answers · asked by tigrlove1974 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow ,I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through so much drama while you're so far away from home!!! Let me also say this I appreciate you for protecting our country.People don't understand what it means to really have to fight for our freedom ,unless the have been to places like Iraq! If you feel that your daughter needs to be in your care,Then do whatever it takes for you to gain sole custody!!! your are correct when you say that love isn't enough to raise a child!!! That child has to be provided for financially as well!! The drug dealer coming to your home is enough to want to gain sole custody!!! I will keep you in my prayers and I hope that everything works out just fine fro you and your daughter!!!! You are a hell of a man and its your wife's loss and someone elses gain!!!! I pray for all troops I have an 18 year old son stationed in Germany that will deploy to Iraq September 20th!!!!!! I wish you all Gods Speed!!!! Best wishes
2006-08-27 03:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you try and convince her to give you custody. It will be extremely costly to go through litigation for this issue and the emotional turbulence among you (including your daughter) will later cause problems. Maybe you can also ask the Command to provide you legal assistance to make your case stronger. Problem here is that your assignments means social dislocation of the daughter should you be transferred elsewhere and parental presence is a big issue on custody.
2006-08-27 03:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gonna have to go with everyone else on this one,, your daughter doesn't have any buisness beign in a house where drugs could be a problem.
Taking custody of your daughter doesn't mean you are closing out her mom,, she can still be a super huge part of her life. Please just rememeber that if you get custody that you will have to have some type of family care plan and have someone to take care of your duaghter while you are deployed..
Good luck!!
2006-08-27 04:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a military wife and a mother and i will tell you, just because she loves her child doesnt make her a capable mother.If you are certain that you can provide better than she can,fight for custody! Love alone doesnt provide the childs needs.
2006-08-27 04:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by sexxxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
interior the militia, the codes for adultery stand inspite of a criminal seperation. Any sexual intercourse or intimate relationships with somebody different than your better half in simple terms before the criminal dissolution of the marriage are seen adulterous. whether, the certainty of it is they hardly act in those situations, exceedingly if the ex-better half is happy with it. And while you're in simple terms chatting with somebody, there fairly isn't any foundation for the charges. curiously they are searching for somebody to make an occasion of, in all probability because of the fact this has been an ongoing problem interior the area or unit. it could additionally be...and it is bigoted, yet occurs...which you pissed somebody off alongside the way. MY suggestion may be to touch JAG to ensure precisely what the regs are bearing directly to this and to ask what might ensue. As to your remark approximately your guy or woman existence, in case you have been lively accountability for any length of time, you ought to comprehend that what you do and the type you behave off accountability is often situations in simple terms as significant as what you do on accountability. the militia is between the few careers the place you may get a unfavorable overall performance score in case you bounced some tests, weren't lively sufficient in community activities and had policies for what you could positioned on in civilian clothing on base (or perhaps off base in some over seas posts). Adultery has grow to be a great subject for the militia..the two internally and photograph clever. such countless human beings anticipate all militia adult men cheat mutually as deployed or that militia better halves have fanatics. To wrestle it, the militia has began to be far greater proactive, exceedingly because of the fact the divorce value interior the militia is greater than comparable data for civilians. enjoyed ones themes have come below greater and greater close scrutiny. save that for the duration of suggestions mutually as coping with this.
2016-09-30 22:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, I have compassion for you and hope it works for the best. Your daughter needs a healthy, stable home and it sounds as though you can provide what she needs,
2006-08-27 04:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough problem; also you never know when your tour will be extended. Wait till you get home and spend tiem with the kids. You dont waant them to ge the wrong idea.
2006-08-27 03:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try 2 get sole or full custody
2006-08-27 03:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by drea318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your wife's phone number ?
2006-08-27 03:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by hnksvr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am spouse of military i say get custody....... just my opinion
2006-08-27 03:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by riverstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋