i work with my ex in the same department. how do i handle the pain. do i just ignore him totally
2006-08-27 02:49:47 · 11 answers · asked by trueblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
easiest thing is to treat him like a professional co-worker, if you can just be professional with them, then you can hide the pain a little easier. never easy leaving someone then seeing them 5 days a week, but it helps to always keep smiling, because when his back is turned you can let it all go. helped me once :) hope it does with you
2006-08-27 03:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you can handle.
But ignoring him totally is, indeed, a form of hostility and may not be deemed acceptable by your employer.
Talk to the ex and explain that you plan to be polite at work and ask for the same in return.
If you have any of each other's stuff ask for it once, but if it is not returned don't bring it up again. Better to write it off to experience.
Do NOT, under any circumstances, begin dating anyone else at work, at least not for a while. This would only complicate the matter.
Do NOT share the details of the breakup with co-workers. Just say it didnt work out. You don't need people "taking sides."
I know you hurt. And this emotion is magnified by seeing your ex at the very place where most of us could get our mind off the pain (at work). But try not wear your emotions on your sleeve. Others, including your employer, will see this as a sign of weakness and also as an attempt to solicite sympathy.
Good luck. Time heals. You WILL be happy again, I promise.
2006-08-27 10:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never-ever date a co-worker! This happened to me and i learned the hard way too. Be cordial with him on a business level and ignore him on personal details. It will take time, but you can get through it. Don't show any emotion what so ever as far as your feelings. It took about 3 months for me and then I got transferred to a different department. I was so stupid for dating someone at work. And it never happened again! Hang in there it will get better! I wish you the best and don't quit your job may be he'll leave.
2006-08-27 10:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring him in the first few weeks is Ok for you to mend your broken heart.
However, in the long run, it is better that you remain as friends, and forget the hurt, as the silence of 2 would affect your working environment and might cause discomfort among your other colleagues.
2006-08-27 10:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by winnie_1423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to swallow your pain at work and try to be polite. It's rough to have to see the ex every day, but that's what happens with work place romances gone bad.
2006-08-27 09:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is be normal dont show him that he can easily hurt u so,never change ur way after seeing him just say a hi when u see him , n also try to make a good frd (guy) he will b jealous
2006-08-27 09:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by kavya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet new guy friends. Stay busy to keep you mind off him. Get a new hobby or enroll a class that you liked. Explore new things with your friends. Get crazy!!!! Ã
2006-08-27 10:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by maesam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats difficult,because you have to see this person at work & behave in a perfessional maner.just keep kool,do your job.If it is completly over between you guys,theres not much you can do,but move on.remember he was a co-worker before you guys dated,so as hard as it is treat him as one.When your at work "all personal sh**t stays outside the door."
2006-08-27 09:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't quit ur job,dats stupid,just ignore him or u can be friends with him
2006-08-27 09:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by drea318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moral of story its unethical to have office relationships.. this is the outcome
2006-08-27 10:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋