I wonder whats wrong with me b/c I just don't care if I have sex my husband on the other hand could be a porn star by how much he wants it does anyone know of any problems or medicines that fix this for a woman..
2006-08-27 02:45:36 · 10 answers · asked by crystal s 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Some people just have a low libido, but the way that you phrase the question can be quite telling. You say "what's wrong with me" assuming that the problem is "yours" and only yours. First question to ask yourself is if you have ever enjoyed having sex with your husband. And by that I mean does he meet your needs, not just your sexual needs, but any other needs. Let me put it this way - do you feel stressed because you have laundry to do, work pressure, kids, housecleaning, bills, etc? And what about your emotional needs? Do you feel loved, cherished, cared for, treasured, respected, etc? If you are not getting these needs met, this could be the reason why. Think about what is really bothering you, and figure out what you need. Just imagine this, if you can identify what your needs are, and if your husband would be able to give you those needs, you are probably going to be very appreciative to him, especially by feeling closer to him because of what he is doing for you, and this will naturally make you want to be with him.
Also, somewhat related to the above discussion, but similar is does he give you your bedtime needs? For instance, is it all about him thrusting and getting himself off when you do have sex, or does he make sure that you are pleasured? Do you feel like you are a "toy" in bed, or does he take the time to really "make love" to you? Do you feel treasured and cared for, or are you just a piece of *ss in bed? (pardon my French here)
Quite simply, if you are not feeling treasured, there is good reason why you don't feel horny. So think about these things and decide if it is something that is really wrong with "you", or if it is something that is wrong with the both of you.
Good Luck!
2006-08-27 03:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by TallMountainGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think if its a problem, it could be many reason why your problem would be like that, maybe its stress related or other reason, and you seem a loving wife and love your husband. I suggest that talk with him first, tell him about your problem, and as husband&wife can work together to fix the solution or maybe try to see a doctor or council together.
2006-08-27 02:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The individual sex drive varies a great deal. Men usually have a very strong drive but many women have to 'fake' it to satisfy their husbands. As a marriage matures, the sex drive in the male decreases and the couple become better friends instead of sex partners.As males do mature, they often use masturbation as a sexual release as their sexual satisfaction with coitus decreases because they require more tightness to achieve ejaculation.
2006-08-27 02:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I both started taking SOMATOMAX. We have two busy careers and three small children, and our sex life was suffering.
The first night we took SOMATOMAX, we went absolutely crazy on each other. We both felt euphoric, and "touchy-feely." We completely lost our inhibitions and did things we hadn't done in ten years (I'm surprised we didn't wake the neighbors). I was able to last for hours; my wife was able to take me for hours and experienced squirting (female ejaculation) for the first time! It was intense.
Just to make sure this experience wasn't a fluke, we used SOMATOMAX again the next night. We went even harder than the first.
We've had to limit the sex on SOMATOMAX to weekends. It was keeping us up too late. We went to work tired, but smiling :)
2006-08-27 04:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by RobsVision 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have that problem, I've found though that if you give in to your husband whenever he asks (notice I didn't say in "whatever:" he asks), you'll see a huge change in him and in yourself. Just enjoy what you do for him.
2006-08-27 02:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need 2 spice it up...try new things in new positions at new places at new times...get crazy...it could also be because Ur husband hasn't been giving u orgasms
2006-08-27 02:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by shawn b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could you not be horny!?!?do u mean you dont have any sexual desires at all?! no offense, cuz u asked whats wrong with you. maybe are you lesbian? idk.sry. really im not tryin to be mean.
2006-08-27 03:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by I love Edward Elric!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some tims but not much of the time
2006-08-27 02:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should find a new wife.
2006-08-27 03:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just u
2006-08-27 03:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋