I've been sleeping with my boss but he's not just my boss?

Question

Not only is he my boss but he's also my son's best friend, im 48 and my boss is 22 and now i think my son knows and i am scared that my husband will find out, but im falling in love with my boss and he has told me the same but i dont know what to do, the sex is amzing but i still have feelings for my husband but not like i use to

Answer 1

All i'm going to say is that it's happend and you can't change it, but you need to do your best to make sure it stops, like other people have said he's young and he will sooner or later go of with a younger person, so you need to stop thinking about him and do what your suppose to do and love your husband, best of luck

Answer 2

It's never good to cheat on a spouse. Nor to have an affair with a boss. But you have pulled a double jeopardy when your boss is the best friend of your son while still married to your husband. Age is not even a factor in this. Sex is always good when there is an element of danger attached to it, you should try it with your husband if as you say you still have feelings for him. I would stop seeing the boss, change jobs if possible, but get away from the sex with him, it is not just you and the boss in this fiasco but a husband and a son that is being effected.

Answer 3

You need to run the other direction, fast. You have so much to lose, and you are living in a fantasy world. There is no way that your son's friend can love you ... he can give you great sex but he hasn't a clue of how to love a woman. If he did, he wouldn't be sleeping with you. He is breaching his friendship with your son, dis'ing your son's father, and he will dump you soon enough. No young man wants to spend the rest of his life with a woman who is 26 yrs older. Whether he knows it or not, he is only f***ing you.

If your marriage isn't what it should be, work on the marriage. I guarantee you that the effort is worth it. Your time and effort in this forbidden relationship is sucking the life out of your marriage. It takes a lot of time and energy, doesn't it? How can you manage that and rebuild your relationship with your husband. Sweetie, you know that I'm right, as well as the others who are telling you the same thing. Now grow up and be a loving mother to your son. No one will suffer more than him when he finds out that his mom is a whore. (That is the word his friends will use when they talk about you behind his back or to his face.)

Answer 4

All the BS aside, you are in trouble.
First, whatever company you and your boss are with probably has some rule about dating (which includes sleeping with) subordinates. I don't know how much your boss values his job, but he could loose it if someone at work snitches on the two of you. You're job is in jeopardy as well b/c I don't see them thinking that he was taking advantage of you or that he was sexually harassing you and promising you a promotion.
Second, you are breaking a trust with your son. When you get involved with his best friend and don't even tell him, he could feel like you violated some unwritten rule that you communicate with him about something like this. Not to mention, you are cheating on his father. Since you are still with his father, that has to be a slap in the face on that level as well.
Third, and probably most importantly, you are committing adultery against a man that you yourself said you still have feelings for. No relationship stays the same after 20+ (guessing) years of marriage. Your feelings for your husband are going to go through ups and downs, but unless you are certain you want out of your marriage, you need to cut off your affair with your boss (and probably find a new job).
Honestly, if you don't stop TODAY, there really isn't a way for it to end well for your family.

Answer 5

You are in trouble all over. He may be your boss , but he is barely more than a teenager. I am 22 and won't date a man unlwss he is at least 40 because they are so immature and by the time they are 30 always go for younger women anaway. You are setting yourselt up to loose your boss, your son and your husband.

I also think you are limited in your sexual experiences. If you think a 22 year old boy, has anywhere near the sexual know how of a 40 year old guy, you have to be inexperienced. I gave the 22 year olds up in college for real men.

Answer 6

Well, ill tell ya, reading what the situation with you is, the one thing that truly bothers me is, 48/22. This has always bothered me, why is it ok if a woman that age dates a guy that young, when if it was the other way around, the man would be labeled and pervert, a sex fiend, and possibly a rapist. Not that you have a family, all that stuff, thats not bothering me as much, but the age deal here is such a double standard. However, you DO have a family, that really should be YOUR first priority. Doesnt matter what anyone else thinks here, YOU KNOW THIS IS WRONG! Good luck!

Answer 7

sounds like your having a bit of a mid life crisis, not meaning to be rude. Leave the relationship with your boss and see if you can rekindle your relationship with your husband. You dont want to get a year down the road having lost your husband, and son. Im 24 and theres no way that i would want to be with someone that much older than me. You also have to consider that he may want to have children, and this may be enough to split you up, also if you called it a day with this man then you also risk the possibility of losing your job. Consider this mans age as he could also just be thinking that this relationship is just a fling, and you risk losing alot by taking this young mans word for it. Be careful what you do, your husband is still the same man you married and you just need to get to know each other. You need to start acting your age and put the feelings of your sons and rest of your families into consideration, this could ba a fatal mistake

Answer 8

finish it now before it gets any further because if your husband finds out then your marriage will be over and for what a quick frill at work that wont last as six months down the line your boss is going to realise as what is a 22 year old doing with a 48 year old

Answer 9

Dear Friend,

Sometimes family life can get boring. That doesn't mean you love your husband or family any less, it means that you need something to "juice up" what you already have.

Sounds like the boss is the juice.

I guess you ulitmately have to decide what is most important to you - a fling or jepordizing the relationships with your husband and son. You have to think of the consequences here.

That's for you to decide.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Am sure ur son well be d one to be hurt deeply bcoz imagining his mother having sex with his best friend ,this is a big insult to him and his father.
I figure out that ur husband is already old that he cant give u d desire u need.thats why u said that ur falling in love with ur boss bcoz of the sex u enjoy ,
what can i say is better cut that affair very soon if u want to still have a happy family.

Answer 11

End it on a friendly note, sooner rather than later- it will only be more difficult as time goes on. Let him know the wild times were fun, but you've got to consider your family as first priority. That's what those marriage vows were about.

The cards are in your favor, since sleeping with employees is a huge no-no for any boss- it puts the company in a bad position for any sort of harassment or wrongful termination suit.

With great sex comes great responsibility!