Can the passion return?

Question

I preferred the excitement of having an affair - now we are married, I feel shackled and bored? Divorce is out of the question.

Answer 1

Take this from an old guys perspective and experience. Do something that excites your partner. He'll respond by doing things that excite you.
Candle light dinner, wear sweet smelling scents and dress sexy.
Go to a hotel for the weekend, etc.
Perhaps, he is bored too. That will cause you to be bored. He may be thinking the same things that you've been thinking. Divorce will happen if he catches you having an affair. Think of how you'd feel if you caught him having one.
I've been through 3 marriages and looking back I could have done things differently. But the past is the past and can't be changed. I did things differently on the 3rd and it's lasted 23 yrs. Both of us are very happy and are best friends. People see us together and the way we act toward each other, stick their finger in their mouths and gag. They say we have our heads up each others butt. We know it's just jealousy showing. And they wish they could be like us. Try it, you'll be surprised of the outcome.

Answer 2

Don't know if it'll help, but why not try having an affair with your husband... Know it sounds a bit daft, but try leaving each other saucy notes, or calling him at work and leave cryptic messages with his PA/colleagues to spice things up a bit. Clandestine meetings outside the home, disappear for a naughty weekend, take a shower together... Remember what it was about the affair that made it so much better, and try to recapture that.

But also enjoy the intimacy and familiarity tht a long-term solid relationship will bring...

Good luck!

Answer 3

Then have the affair again! Who said you can not have an affair with your spouse. Meet him for lunch and have a rendevous. Call him around 10PM and meet him somewhere for a drink. Do what you did when it was just an affair. You have the power to bring all the excitement back.

Answer 4

Passion is the result of intention. Your affair was fueled by adreneline...life is fueled balance and focus.

To keep the fire burning you have to set aside time to develop your passion by intention. The other thing to remember is that if you are feeling like this, your partner may be as well. Communication is the key to success!

Answer 5

Perhaps you prefer forbidden fruits Now that you are married, it's not as much fun. I suppose you'll just have an affair on this guy too. He really can't complain, cuz that's how you guys got together.

Answer 6

what is passion ... you are passion marriage needs to be work at together as a partnership so if you are a woman you have the knowledge to make it work ... why go into the frying pan when you cannot turn the heat up in your own kitchen... perhaps meet your partner Husband in a cheap hot book under Mr/Mrs smith or put rude messages in his sandwiches leave him clues as to what you want him to do to do ? spices your life up together re discover each other candles and bath and wine and night in the garden under the stars or find wood

Answer 7

Try arranging to meet in unusual places and then go to an hotel for some hot, sweaty nookie.

It may be the trivia of day-to-day life that is killing the passion and you just need to add some spice to the mix.

Answer 8

Try all you can to regain the passion....I have been in the endless cycle of affair after affair....I am an unhappy man to say the least....I miss being truely loved.

Answer 9

Oh so you rather be sneaky to have excitement in your relationship.

Okay. Be sneaky and have an affair with your husband. Nothing wrong with that. It is called play acting.

Answer 10

Affairs are high octane, short term kicks. If you go for another affair, you'll repeat the cycle over and over and always be unhappy.