When we protect them till they are adult by not letting them know how life can truely be cruel at times..what can we say to them to let them know that the world can hurt you and break u down..
2006-08-27 02:00:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
However.. just dont show them on ur own.... dont let ur kids ever see u hurt because this might be the worst thing...
Explain that things can only seem so easy... simply when u go shopping.. u buy them things and all while they dont know how hard was it for u to earn these money, say that behind everything good and amazing, theres something sad and hard... say that to have an amazing life u have to work hard, care about each other, never hate and always think of the future. Life is given to all of us only once... so make ur kids live it the best way they can... because only then u will know ur life waasnt wasted ...
bless you
2006-08-27 02:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah. You are only a parent, not a miracle worker. You are not entitled to protect them until adulthood, at least not from heartbreaks and hurts and stuff like that. The only thing that you have to do is be there for them when it happens. The point of heartbreaks, hurts, life's wrongdoings, mistakes, and all bad things, is for people to learn from them . Kids have to experience these things. Just be there for them when they need you.
2006-08-27 02:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing they need to know that life is not fair. It isn't like school where everyone is treated like an equal. They need to experience their own ups and downs to learn this lesson. What has seemed to work for my children is the knowledge that they are always loved my their mom - no matter what they do. They are always welcome to come home to stay when the world gets to be too much for them.
Both of my children are out on their own, and my son had to move home for two weeks this summer. He certainly understood my message. After the two weeks he had to report for more training (Army Reserves) which is why he did not get a different apartment for that short time. He calls me every night and checks up on me. My daughter has here own business and home. She calls every day. We are closer now than when they were small because I did not judge their chosen careers - I supported them and loved them.
2006-08-27 02:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe of that,having youthful ones takes diverse time and attempt of direction notwithstanding it has many rewards that make it worth it.i comprehend people without youthful ones and they have it some distance from straight forward.existence should be complicated for all at cases. i'm slightly at a loss for words notwithstanding as in yet another question you probably did say that you loved your existence,you may do regardless of the reality that you opt for and function not in any respect had any recommend comments about being baby free?have you ever purely all started wearing a t blouse contained in the previous couple of days with "i'm baby free,visit hell."on or something?something like that could clarify the comments...
2016-10-15 21:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Thats something they'll have to figure out on their on because when they reach a certain age they become hard headed and think they can do anything and won't listen to anybody, so then they have learn the hard way. Thats what growing up is all about. I have an 18 year old and I try to tell him things and I might as well be talking to a wall.
2006-08-27 02:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot reach yr kids abt heartbreak and the ways of life, you can teach them the wisdom of handlig day to day situations in school at home, you can teach them to be strogn from within, remember a child watches his parents as he is growing up so he will watch you whn u have to deal with painful situations and learn from there.
2006-08-27 02:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only try to explain to them how cruel the world can be. They will still have to suffer. I tell my children that they can talk to me about anything. Hate to see them get hurt, but that's life.
2006-08-27 02:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to see ur kids get hurt and go through hard times . i know i have 4.and as hard as it is,u have to let them learn on there own. thats what prepares them for lifes ups and downs. i know its easier said than done been there done that. the only thing u can do is be there for them . give them support and love and tell them to always have faith in themselves
2006-08-27 02:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am a mother of 4. we never keep anything from our kids no matter how big or small.your children will trust you more if you are honest at all times.when i was younger my mother kept things from me or stretched the truth a little because she felt like i was too young to understand.Now i am 27 yrs. old and i trust my parents to a certain extinct.its bad when you find out things about life and personal affairs from other people besides the person who claims to love you.
2006-08-27 02:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by nurse2011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real with your kids, the world can be a mean and cruel place. So you have to sensitize them to this reality.
2006-08-27 02:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by johnavaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋