Whats the best way to get over the pain of divorce?

Answer 1

there is only time, time is a healer you my not believe me but I have been there and time is the healer you don't want to jump into loving some one Else this soon take time for your self and stay home read the Bible, God can also help you take away some of the pain go see your family ,friends . just think of you find something that you like . good luck with every thing you do and may God bless you from hear on out

Answer 2

There is truly not a best way. The pain of divorce will come and go. It does not matter if you are the one wanting a divorce, the one being ask for a divorce, or agree that it is best for both, a time of pain will come. Think of this as a grief process and there are stages you will just have to endure.
Try to get your life established. If you are working, don't stop. If you can, moving may be a good idea in a short time after the divorce is final. Go out with friends at every opportunity and avoid making the divorce your topic of discussion when out for fun. If you have someone who has experienced this, make that person your friend to talk to about the divorce.
Avoid any new relationships. You will regret later the things that will likely happen now in a new relationship. Your emotions need a little time to settle.
I divorced the most horrible person to be married to after eighteen years. In the first few years, there were still times when I questioned the decision. If you know the divorce is right, just hold to that and in time the questioning and pain will ease. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Focus on yourself. Do the things that you had always wanted to do. I made the mistake of going crazy, just being a lil you know what. I was so consumed with hatred and self pity that it just really made me an ugly person.
Take a break from any kind of relationship. Jumping into the fire right after getting out of the frying pan is so bad. Almost 15 years later after my divorce I have the lowest self esteem, and just no real faith in men.
You don't want to end up tainted against love. So, have a healthy loving relationship with yourself. It's never too late. Try to shake off the negative affects of this divorce, because if you hang on to it, oh my, it's so hard to get rid of it.
Good luck and remember, only you know what you want, and only you know what you don't want. Choose happiness, even if it means being alone for awhile. Being single is not a bad thing. Don't settle for less.
Embrace your second bloom!! Love yourself!

Answer 4

I know everyone says time heals and most of the time it does and sometimes it doesn't
i been through divorce twice once from an Alcoholic and ones i was just way to young to get married.. it hurts everytime but eventually the pain will get less and less ... Enjoy the outdoors ... find things to keep your mind occupied change the house around and redo it so you wont be reminded of him or even move into a new place make new friends... you can do it dear..... God will guide you and give you a better life.....

Answer 5

When you've been the "victim" of a divorce, the first thing you MUST UNDERSTAND and BEGIN BELIEVING is that YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DIE BECAUSE OF IT- Regardless of how badly you feel, you must realize that it has happened to millions of people before you; it is happening to countless people every day; and it will continue to happen to millions of people so long as there is love, marriage and divorce.

Probably the first thing you should do is to take stock of yourself and set about improving the way you look. This could mean a new hairdo, a haircut, new makeup, and new clothes. Get yourself organized to look your best, because when you feel that you look good, you will look good.

The next thing you should do is get involved in some sort of meaningful work.

The next thing you should do is make up a budget to live by, and determine to become the best "money manager" who ever lived. Few people live according to a budget, and consequently, most people are over their heads in debt.

Very definitely, you should give yourself time to relax and socialize with other people. If you haven't been too friendly of late with your next door neighbor, or the people in your block, then get out and renew those acquaintances. Get out of your "closet" and pay them a visit, or invite them into your home for coffee. Let people know that you're alive and well - that you're worth knowing as a friend and neighbor.

Know what you want - be honest with yourself in understanding what you have to do to get what you want - and then let nothing stand in your way until you get precisely what you want. It can be yours, but you have to make it all happen!

Answer 6

If you have any family members that have been through divorce talk to them or your parents even friends. I am in the middle of my divorce and the pain ( my ex and have been separated for about 3 yrs) I talked to my mom, family friends and I even talked to the guy who is now my fiance and he's been through 2 divorces before he met me. It does take time to get over the hurt, lost, confused emotions and feelings. It took me about a year and a half to get over my feelings and my emotions and yes even now once in a great while I have a good cry to get over the good times my ex and i shared together. Good Luck if you need to chat just drop me a line

Answer 7

You need to find something that you always wanted to do and haven't had the chance. Focus on yourself. This is the best time to be greedy with your time and spend it doing the things you want. Learn to dance, knit, sky-dive, or any other thing you have always wanted to do. Be sure to get out of the house and interact with other people. The more you do this the less the divorce hurts. And on top of that - you become a more interesting person.

Answer 8

it takes time to get over a divorce. you take one day at a time. get through that day, then work on the next. divorce is not fun thats for sure. if you have children get really involved with there lifes. it hurts thats for sure. if it wouldnt have been for my kids and my friends. devote your time to work while kids are in school. but make time for what you want to do. i found out that i had to find myself again. figure out what i want to do, not what you and your ex wants but you. start seeing other people, but i wouldnt start another realationship with anyone to your ready. times have changed so much since i was younger. there are so many wrongful doers out there. you have to be watchful if you have kids because of the growing rate of child molesters. theres more people out to hurt people. no one can really tell you what to do. you have to do it on your own. just live your life to the fullest the best way you can. you only have one life.

Answer 9

Take time out and find yourself.Live life all about you what ever you wont when you wont.Stay active do things you always wanted to do.Feel good about yourself this is not the end but a whole new beginning.

Don't let it get you down time will heal all be strong and remember your better that all this..

Good luck your own your way!!

Answer 10

try stop questioning yrslef on why it happend and why it shuldnt have happend, there is a paln fr each and every one of us, and sometimes the most painful things in life were ment to be fr out good. Sit doen take stock of yr life wht are the things u so loved to do prior to yr marriage, like hobbies, reading etc, start doing those things , start developing the talents u have, take a lot of me time, spend weekends with the people you love, yr family, time heals my dear, forgive and forget and so move on and you will find peace .