2006-08-27 01:08:45 · 25 answers · asked by chil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let him go he cant touch even if he wanted to. also he cant complain when u want to go see a male stripper.
2006-08-27 02:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for any woman to not want their partner to go to a lap dancing club. Have you tried explaining how you feel and how this is causing you a degree of anxiety? Men do these stupid things to be "one of the boys" and if he doesn't go he'll lose face. For some bizarre reason, it's widely accepted for men to indulge in this kind of thing. We just say "well, he's a bloke", as though that makes it all OK. If it's distressing you then he needs to know. However, you may find that he stands by his guns and goes anyway so that his friends don't think he's a wuss
2006-08-30 03:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by trog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being satisfied with you sexually has absolutely nothing to do with why guys go to strip clubs. Guys go because it's male bonding; because they like to look at naked women (even skanky drug addicted alcoholic women - it's the naked thing). If he's going as a regular thing that's another issue. Going when a bachelor friend is in town or as part of a bachelor party, not an issue. How much money he spends at strip clubs (they can suck hundreds of dollars out of you in a few hours) is another issue. Just tell him that any physical contact is a violation of trust (you're obviously not comfortable with the physical contact aspect of a strip club); he needs to respect that.
2006-08-27 01:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
When 2 people are entering a serious relationship, they have to decide what they can accept/not accept about each other. He obviously doesn't feel there is anything wrong with his choice and it sounds like you do.
If you keep nagging him, he will start to resent you and your relationship will burn to its own destruction.
Don't settle. If this is something that really bugs you, you can be completely in love with him and at the same time, he may not be the one for you. And that's okay.
Make yourself a priority.
2006-08-27 02:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bright Eyed Zee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I know I dont like the thought of a guy im engaged to drooling over bare, scuddy women. Its a bit of jelousy which is a natural human emotion.
2006-08-27 01:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by skybound767 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to your level of comfortability. Ask him if will take you with him. That way you can see what really goes on there. If you are going to marry him then you need to trust him and he needs to respect how you feel. But be open minded try it and if you don't like it or are uncomfortable with him going (with or without you) let him know.
2006-08-27 01:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by maynorda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are mistaken, thinking that he'll go there and pick up women. Fat chance. But if you don't want him to go, talk to him without arguing. You have the right to voice your opinion and make a decision accordingly.
2006-08-27 01:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. First of all- if your partner isn't completely satisfied with you sexually now- then he never will and this will always be an issue. Can you live with this? Its a total disrespect toward you. Get out now, unless you are a stripper yourself.
2006-08-27 01:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by shugabam! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lap dances should be ok. But if he is serious and intimate. Slap him straight up!
2006-08-27 01:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by E10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want to go in the first place? You can "want" all you want to, but chances are he is going anyway. This is NOT a good way to start off on the road to marriage. He will consider you nagging, you consider him lacking...are you sure you know what you are doing?
2006-08-27 01:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are right to not want him to go . You are supposed to be getting married that means just you and him no sl*ts.
If he wants some other women rubbin on him then why is he with you. My husband would never go and i would never let him.
Why should it be O.K. He's marrying you. if he wants other women then he should'nt get married.
Men are such pigs.
2006-08-27 01:38:17 · answer #11 · answered by lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋