I feel like this is more like a convenice than a marriage for him. I can be doing so much more, going on vacation, etc. But I just stay at home and wait for him to do something with me, and I am wasting my time. I told him this is gonna cause me to leave him and he is just like I love you please don't leave. I am making my stomach upset and I have this heartburn and I believe it is stress. I don't wanna be with him anymore. Our son is the one who is really hurting because he don't have a dad who is willing to do anything with him, like play ball, ride bikes, etc.
2006-08-26 23:59:44 · 17 answers · asked by gina t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do tell him he has to stop and make a choice that or me and he just don't get it.
2006-08-27 00:08:10 · update #1
So I am suppose to leave and take my son out of school cause his dad is a bum why don't he leave. And he does not hurt me in anyway but the smokin is the only thing.
2006-08-27 00:38:47 · update #2
Baby you need to tell him how you feel and give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't want to work things out than you have to do what's right for you.
2006-08-27 00:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teens are wasting their lives away, they just don't know it yet. Yes, even the cute, popular, "smart" kids are just living for the moment, and doing nothing constructive. If you want to be happy, feel more in control of your life, and even make some worthwhile friends, find something you are passionate about. I mean something outside yourself. Do you care about the elderly? Are you moved by the plight of unwanted animals? Visiting a nursing home, or volunteering at your local animal shelter, reading to the sick, teaching a Sunday school class are all excellent ways to live your life instead of just existing in a depressed, self-absorbed vacuum. And the others that you will meet when doing something that matters make the best friends of all, because they appreciate you for who you really are, not only what's on the outside. I hope this helps. I'll be praying for you.
2016-03-26 21:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are really getting frustrated and puzzled. But let me tell you something, you first need to decide what exactly you need. You can easily leave your husband and do whatever you feel like. BUt as you have mentioned that you have a kid too. Have you ever thought what impact will he have about you and your husband? If I would have been in your son's place I would have felt that my mom parted from my father just bcoz she wanted her desires to be fulfilled. So think of all these things and then take a decision. Remember it takes seconds to break but years to build.
2006-08-27 00:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Upal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time on a pot head, and definitely the time of your son. Get your son, and get out. You are hanging on, hoping he will change. Get past this. Your empty threats mean nothing. Find a decent place to live to get on with your life, and that may be the impetus for your husband to quit. You are enabling him. STOP.
Do NOT feel guilty. Know in your heart you are doing what is best for you and your son. Your husband obviously doesn't respect himself or either of you.
Good luck, dear one.
2006-08-27 00:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was having an affair you wouldnt tolerate it and you are in a threesom, him the weed and a distant last you
a drug addict cares about nothing but drugs. Leave him for a while watch him choose the weed over you, you only live once and why waste it on him, your youth will be gone soon, time to find aman who puts you first and be more of father than the weed head you have
test him leave for a while
2006-08-27 00:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your son get him away from this life he will know no better otherwise. Dont feel guilty cos he says stay you an your son deserve love and a decent life maybe if you do go he might snap out of it. And it sounds lijke you fear him so get out begin new life, you deserve to be happy, you son deserves a dad that is there for him.
2006-08-27 00:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay unlike every body who loves to say just leave this isn't your boyfriend.and nobody really knows the whole story of your situation either ....Well you must of been with him for quit a while because you have a son together...I'm not saying its not a big deal it is .....And I agree you shouldn't put up with it either ...Weed shouldn't be an excuse to be lazy ......What I'm saying is because of your son and because your married its not just that easy to walk away ....He will Always be in your life....So remember this you are the wife that is your house too and its time to put that foot down and set some rules or come to an agreement.....See how much he really does loves you.unless you already fell out of love with him and you already made up your mind......IS HE EVEN WORKING?
2006-08-27 00:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by JustCurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for him to be doing drugs. It is just a glance to what the future will be like. Has he been in drug treatment? Try and get him to go. If that doesn't work, you need to make a plan, and get out of your marriage. Either your husband will take you seriously and quit the drugs or you will get divorced.
2006-08-27 00:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl!!!!!it is not the weed....its your husband. he is lazy. im sure there are moments when his *** aint high...and he probably still aint doin nothin. you shouldnt be there if you feel its just a convience....marriage is about love and giving yourself to another person not taking advantage of them or the situation. your causin your self physical sickness by dealin with his bs. thats not good for you or for the future of your son. if he cant make a change in his actions.....you know what you gotta do......YOU!
OH AND AINT NOTHIN WRONG WITH GETTIN YOUR DESIRES SUCH AS LOVE, HAPPINESS, AND AN ACTIVE FATHER FOR YOUR SON REACHED!!!NEVER SETTLE!!!STRIVE FOR WHAT YOU AND YOUR SON DESERVE.
2006-08-27 00:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by justinedenial 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever chooses drugs or some kind of addiction, even work, over their family they have issues that need to be dealt with. sometimes the only way to have them deal with them is to give them a real life jolt..... leave the loser.
2006-08-27 00:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋