My husband & I were married 5 months, after a 3 year r/ship, moved overseas, when he got called on duty for 4 months. I returned home, he came saw me, and then we did not see each other for another 3 or so months. During that time he was travelling in EU, with mates, whilst I was in my new job back at home after we agreed it was best for our future. Days before he came home, he told me his feelings changed but no 3rd party. He's pushing/pulling but disengaging; it's been 2 months now that ive not seen him. Unlike him, I'm completely devastated; in disbelief: that he didnt even give us the chance to be together & work on getting our r/ship on track. Upset: that he's chosen his army life and mates over a committed r/ship. Devastated: that my future and the man I love are no longer in my life. Hopeful & naive: that he'll come to his senses and remember us. Horrified: that he really does not love me. Incapable of coming to terms with this, of letting go & not seeing the future so bleak..
2006-08-26 23:47:00 · 10 answers · asked by bonbon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You answered your own question. LET GO!!! He has told you and shown you he don't want you. Get over it and move on with someone worth while. Good luck.
2006-08-26 23:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you to move on with your life. Don't waste your time by waiting for him to come around. Just keep going forward, get involved with a hobbie or a church or just go out and make new friends. The pain will subside eventually and you will find that it was for the best. Good luck.
2006-08-27 10:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you pushed him into marrying you?Some people realize what they want after getting married and that could be the case here. Or maybe he just found his calling in the service and chose it over you.Accept it,hurt,cry,then heal.Move on with your life,you can't control free will.
2006-08-27 07:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you like I would tell one of my kids...If something isn't meant to be...then let it go. But if it is...then there's nothing you, him, or anyone else can do about it. "Time" heals everything. iIt may not feel like it right now, but you'll see I'm telling the truth soon.
2006-08-27 06:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry........I can understand what you are going through.....my wife of 5-yrs just told me she wants to leave......how can people do things like that...I just don't get it. ....everyone tells me the best thing to do is just move on & find someont that deserves my love.... I hope this helps!
2006-08-27 08:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by johnny b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and find someone whose occupation will be more conducive for a stable relationship.
2006-08-27 07:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Just start to move. Tomorrow will be better than today.
2006-08-27 07:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was not fully committed when he married you or this would not have ever happened.
2006-08-27 07:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when love is between the two of you.... miracles can happen, when it's not there, move on with your new life without him
2006-08-27 06:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by tchaikovsky12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is no point insting on wrong-hearted man. dont torture yourself.
2006-08-27 08:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋