What is temptation ? Pls give some logic based ways to control it.?

Question

I am asking specially about sexual temptations.

Answer 1

Temptations are not a controling factor. It is sudden urged needs based on selfish thoughts, that may or may not be rightous. Start thinking God.

Answer 2

I agree with the definition of temptation being desire for something that could be bad for you as much or more than it is fun and/or exciting.

I want to amplify some other answers ideas and add a few of my own. I like the distract yourself from the temptation idea. I like the focus on the consequences for you and for others idea. I like the will power of the native indians idea. I understand others noting that you want to attack an emotional issue with logic. You have to ask yourself if you can remain logical while dealing with this emotional issue. If you can, that is showing the willpower that is a positive personality trait.

You had another question about sisters being in love with the same boy. If this question is related to that, you have good reason to resolve this with logic and deny the temptation. Even if you are pursuing a boy that your sister is interested in out of spite, you can rationalize turning away by saying to yourself, while you don't like your sister, you don't go there, you are above such hurtful tactics. If you are on good terms with your sister, turn away out of respect for that family tie.

I think you have a desire to be a strong person. This test of your will is an opportunity to show that you are in control of yourself rather than temptations being in control. Do things to help yourself deny the temptation. Replace the excitement you feel about possibly giving in to the temptation with something that else that is exciting and NOT bad for you or others. Go see an action or horror movie. Go to an amusement park and ride roller coasters.

Another of your questions asks about fool-proof female contraception. The ONLY fool proof contraception is abstinance. Even the most effective birth control methods are only 98% effective. A way that you can satisfy the sexual excitement is to consider self-gratification of the sexual feelings. This takes some of the spark off the tug of the urge toward the temptation. And it won't make you pregnant. I understand it may be against some moral codes, but it really doesn't cause any serious problems beyond guilt feelings about the imposed moral code. It can actually enhance the sexual abilities when you have an appropriate sexual partner at an appropriate age in an appropriate relationship.

I MUST comment on the question you asked about allowing strangers to touch you. If it is an experiment as you stated and it doesn't become a habit, you can blow it off as a crazy idea that you tried once and turned away from. If it is a habit, I feel you seriously need to look at your self image and reserve allowing people to touch you, to those that you know and have positive feelings for. Be good to yourself!

Answer 3

Temptation is usually the urge to do some thing that you should'nt be doing! That meaning itself gives you the logic to control the temptation! To explain further, dear VP, if you're off some food item on doctor's strong advice and you are tempted to go for that item particularly, keep telling yourself that the doctor knew when he advised against it! Now, for sexual temptations: if it's ok for you to give in to your wish or desire, then it's not exactly a temptation: in your circumstances, probably, it's not ok, hence your apprehension, and your question. You keep asking yourself the question, every thing will be all right!
The logic and the control that you are looking for will automatically, naturally, take effect to envelope you in a protection cover!

Answer 4

Temptation would be putting yourself in a precarious situation where more could happen with another person. You know there is sexual tention between the two of you. You control it by not acting on your feelings. You control it by not putting yourself in a place where more could happen. As far as in your mind, what you are thinking is normal. What you can do is direct your mind to other places if you don't want to think about it anymore. Think about work or things you have to do at home. Think about the consequences that would happen if you acted on the temptations and who might be hurt through it all. Think about yourself being hurt.

Answer 5

Okay - temptation huh? Feelings of attraction for someone who is unattainable for some reason - either because of choice or situation. If this is a temptation that you don't want to pursue then keeping yourself busy and your mind on other things can be helpful. Normally, temptations will subside and pass with time - depending on the person.

Answer 6

Keep busy. Keeping yourself occupied with non-sexual friends, family or whatever will keep temptations to a minimal. Believe me it will always be there but it is up to you as a resonable adult to know that you and your mind are in control. If a situation arose where the temptation is really strong, change the subject. I know where your coming from but it just takes willpower and that ability to know that you have a will to fight temptaion.

Answer 7

It means being exposed to and feel attracted to achieve something.

Example: you see a guy with big muscles and you tempt to sign up for gym membership to train like that and impress your friends.

or

you feel like chewing on something and you see the chocolate bar in the fridge or the cookie jar.


A good way to resist temptation is not to see it or pretend that you never saw it. Or change your mind to think of something else.

If you and your boyfriend are in the house alone and may end up humping... leave the house for a crowded mall where the environment prohibits such acts.

Answer 8

Don't put yourself in situations that harbor or breed these types of temptations. Temptation is a way of being tested by the enemy,and we gain strength by not giving in, and that is how we gain power over it and come out the winner.

Answer 9

Temptation = you see something you should not have, but you really want it. You begin to rationalize why you should have it.

How to control?....head over the heart. Use reasoning to overcome the urgency of "must have it now". Ask yourself what the consequences will be if you were caught, found out, or whatever happens happen (unwanted pregnancy, STD, exposure etc).

That's the best way... I know.. Good luck.

Answer 10

what you say temptation is really desire. personally i think not one in a million should dare to advice you on this issue. there's no logical solution to this as it's not by logic that desire arises. Great Indian seers have gained control over this.they surely didn't use logic, it's been sheer will power , the urge to reach god.Until your will power or devotion reaches that level, it's tough to avoid desire.I also have such temptations , and i 've attempted to fight against them.But am not strong enough.So i keep them in limits, so that it "doesn't affect my life" or "more importantly others' life".But i wish i had control over them.May be someday it will happen.