A group with social status in school invites you to a party. you know that the party will involved drinking, prohibited movies, and other immoral activities. you know your parents will dissaprove of your joining the group. but to be invited by this group means to be accepted in thier social level...
2006-08-26 23:08:20 · 15 answers · asked by kath06phil 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yeah, I made that mistake & I'm sorry I did.
It affects me still & I wish I would have never
been concerned about being cool. I was so ridiculed as a child.
We were poor & I wore outdated attire. I attended a rich elementry school & they bagged on my so bad I cryed home almost every single day. Kids can be so mean. I met a cool chick who invited me over & I thought, this is it! I have finnaly have an oppurtunity to show them I am cool!
But it came at a toll. My husband kept himself for me & was hoping his wife would have done the same thing but because I didn't want to be "tight" I was not a virgin when I met him. I felt so bad but he loved me anyway. Sometimes he struggles with it still & there's nothing I can do about it. I can't take back time.
Be careful, don't make choices you could regret for the rest of your life. This party you want to go to wont be any fun at all.
If you want a fun group of friends to hang out with, look in to activities you enjoy like dancing or sining. You can take dance & join a dance team or a choir & all go to Kareoky & sing your hearts out! The most loving group of friends will be found at a church youth group. If you look up Christian youth groups, you should find what your looking for there.
2006-08-30 12:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by FireCrkR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could this "Social Level" possibly do for you.
Apparently, your parents have tried to instill an honest Moral and ethical background for you, and by you sounding hesitant towards accepting this invitation means your parents are/have accomplished in bringing you up morally conscience.
Why not start your own Status Quo, and reach beyond the Levels of the rest of these people, you're better than that, and chances are, this social status group knows this in you, you may just find that "they" will be accepting your invitations one day.
2006-08-27 06:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you into drinking, x-rated movies and the like? If you NOT, I would go, and politely refuse the drinks and the like. You can't refuse the movies so just watch them. Act happy to be there, and act like the things they are doing doesn't bother you, that you can have a good time without the drinking. They will accept you if you act like the things their doing is OK for them ,but not for you.
If your into those things I strongly warn you to be careful. I know you must be a teen, but be a wise teen. Your talking to someone that doesn't drink or do drugs and I never had a problem with fitting in with the BAD crowd cause of my beliefs. My friends respected me for my beliefs. I proved to them that I CAN have a good time and laugh as loud as they can at things WITHOUT the drinking and drugs. YOU CAN BE ACCEPTED EVEN THOUGH YOUR NOT INTO THOSE THINGS EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT BELIEVE IT NOW. As long as you don't "snub your nose" at their activities and do YOUR OWN THING they will acccept you. Go and experience it and maybe after all you will maybe feel that you don't even like those people. But, you rnot going to know that until you try. Hopefully you will come out of this experience and realize that BEING ACCEPTED is not the greatest thing on earth.
2006-08-27 06:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Corina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide what action to take. All I can say is that in the long run acceptance by such "social" groups only bothers people who lack the personal strength to be themselves and can only survive by being a mere ant in the safety of the nest, anonymous, controlled and of no personal value. Someone that will be sacrificed for the benefit of the others without hesitation. If you are that shallow ........
2006-08-27 06:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad move to go to this party. You'd be nervous when you were there. The other people who weren't worried about their parents would sense that and maybe make you feel bad or tease you.
You could end up being shunned by the group you wanted to be a part of AND be in trouble with your parents.
But when I was much younger...I probably would have gone and gotten into all the trouble I mentioned! (live and learn)
2006-08-30 19:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by dashelamet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too many red flags here. You will be more respected in the long run by not being with this in crowd. Try a good youth group at church you will feel a lot better and not be demoralized by sex drugs and whatever the other crowd is doing.
2006-08-27 06:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by blank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only go to parties with prohibited movies. This is an easy choice.
2006-08-27 21:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by rrbowker2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I wanted to be part of that crowd I would go, but hopefully that is not the kind of people I would chose to hang with.
P.S. in my younger days it was unfortunately
2006-08-29 22:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by fifi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents would only dissaprove if they were not invited.
2006-08-27 20:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by Little Bit the Ferret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High school and college are passing phases. Those 'in' circles seldom endure. My question is : doesn't family more important than these?
2006-08-27 06:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋