im cant stay away from this guy. he picks my calls when he wants to but otherwise doesnt. he goes out with this othergal on weekends. calls me after he has finished partying to say he is missing me. He says he loves me a lot but doesnt want a relationship. he says i am no body to tell him anything if he goes to his ex house n he spends his weekends with her too.. please please help. i dont feel like living anymore. life is hell. on the week days he is very nice to me. please help. he verbally abuses me and has also beaten me up so has his ex. he says thats ok. does he love me.
2006-08-26 23:06:49 · 12 answers · asked by trueblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im sorry to tell you but "no he doesnt". trust me ive been married to an abuser for 17 yrs now and made excuses to myself that he loved me and that was his way of showing me. but in reality neither of us were happy. he still says he loves me but one day he will see that it isnt love or wasnt love. i was so unhappy and couldnt figure out why until one day i woke up and realized what was really going on. one thing i know for sure is that if u were not always available for him when he called it would change his way of thinking or "useing you". remember absence makes the heart grow fonder and if u were to try and be a challenge for him im tellin u he would realize that he could loose u and change. try it and see.
2006-08-26 23:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading between the lines i just think he is a good time guy. I really dont think he loves you at all, you are being used. You have to be strong and realise that there are plenty more fish in the sea. Let him do what he wants because you really dont need someone that verbally and physically abuses you. I know its going to be very hard for you because as you say "you cant stay away from this guy" You are the only one that can do this and remember, you only put up with what you allow so the ball is in your court. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you like a princess not a door mat. Good luck and I hope that you get it sorted.
2006-08-26 23:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by doot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some words of wisdom/advice
* Never hang onto something that isn't worth your time. This guy is using your sensitivity and vulnerability to his advantage because he's just a jerk.
* Don't let one thing in your life ruining everything that's worth living for. Just because you think you're in love with him doesn't mean that you two are meant to be together. Don't let him push you around. Call the authorites if he ever does anything to you... And you should report the past abuses too.
* Avoid this guy at any cost. There's someone else out there for you that will treat you right and have you on the tipy top of his list of priorities. Ditch this guy before you get even more attatched because I promise you... He is not worth your heart.
* REMEMBER that you're a strong person and shouldn't let shallow, inconsiderate people get in the way of that. Stay true to your goals, live happily, and things will eventually work out for you. Take every day as it comes, and you WILL meet the right person for you.
2006-08-27 05:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you even have to ask a quetion like that when the writing is on the wall with that idiot? I can't understand for the life of me why people put up with this behavior. You must like it or you would have been gone by now. Might I suggest to leave that jerk alone and get somebody worth while.
2006-08-26 23:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is using you he thinks he can have his cake an eat it too. If he had feelings for you he wouldnt be flaunting other woman and he would consider your feelings. Don't be his lap dog sorry but thats how hes treating you. There is someone out there waiting for you who will treat an respect you properly. Don't take abuse of any form it will destroy your self esteem your stronger get out while you can wipe your hands of him. Hes playing you for a fool.
2006-08-26 23:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he doesn't love you, or he would treat you better. It's VERY OBVIOUS, from what you said that he doesn't SHOW you that he cares. Sure, he kisses your butt long enough to get what he wants, and then he's gone again, doing whatever and whoever else he wants. Don't you think you deserve better? He will use you until you stop allowing yourself to be used. And he'll tell you whatever you "want to hear", to keep you under his spell.
2006-08-26 23:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lylac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl you already know that answer....you should be asking yourself that question......its not him its loving yourself to say f**** him and stop thinking negative stop looking for reason why he doesn't care and what am I doing wrong.Sweety its not you ....someone like that loves to be in control .thinking degrading and abuse is how to get it....DON'T PLAY HIS GAME.....hey I'm not gonna lie it will be hard and it will hurt inside but it does go away.....I PROMISE.....
2006-08-26 23:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by JustCurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that he loves u,... he is just making fun of u and using u nothing else and he is pretending to love u but actually he dont love u ok and plz i will say that leave him and plz be happy
2006-08-26 23:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he doesnt or you woundnt be asking (cant have his cake and eat it to) he should only be with you if he loved you.
2006-08-27 07:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by brown 25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think he loves you but he is using you for sure. I think you should leave him soon before he causes more harm to you.
2006-08-26 23:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by arzu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋