My ex took a belt to my son and that is why they were taken off me. I see then once every 2 months for 3 hours at a time and it is supervised. I have never done anything to hurt my children and have asked for unsupervised contact but the social services have said no. My solicitor is trying to get us back into court but can't because of social services. Does anyone knopw of anyboby I can write to that might be able to help me?
2006-08-26 22:47:39 · 10 answers · asked by scooby619 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have tried for the last 3 years to get them back but have got no where. As I live in the UK I don't know who has responsibility for social services.
2006-08-26 22:59:38 · update #1
I know what I did wrong and have taken responsiblity for it and I know this doesn't excuse that fact but he was abusive to me aswell. The social services obtained a full care order and I have tried writting to the director of social services in my area before but have had no luck. I have tried changing solicitors in my area but because of the fact that my ex's parents tried to get custody of my children none of the other solicitors will touch my case with a barge pole.
2006-08-26 23:07:07 · update #2
That is all bullshit! You need to get a lawyer. Children services are like roaches that won't go away. I have been in a similar situation once. They were called and told I beat my son and that I was on drugs. When my test came back clean, it never registered in their heads that they were lied to. It took me almost a year to get my son back and they stayed in my life for about 5 years. 99% of children services case workers don't have kids and when they were kids the got a really good spanking and are now out to change the world. However, they seem to only take kids away from parents who don't beat their kids and are not on drugs, but the parents who do beat their kids and do drugs, children services don't get involved. I was beat when I was a kid and in the 8th grade my dad gave me a black eye and someone at school reported it and all children services did was close the case without investigating. It don't make since. I really suggest that you seek a really good lawyer because your gonna have one hell of a fight on your hands. Fighting children services is like a car trying to kick a trees ***. I wish you all the best of luck and hope that you reunite with your children soon.
2006-08-26 23:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason why your children would have been taken away in this situation is that you did not take reasonable steps to protect your children from your ex or do anything to prevent him from physically abusing your children. This would also amount to neglect / abuse in the eyes of the law.
I am sure that this is not the only reason and probably included your general lifestyle, a lack of co-operation on your part or an unwillingness to take on board advice given.
You don't say whether your children were accommodated voluntarily or under a Full Care Order - which would make a fundamental difference in contact arrangements. I assume it is the latter. In order to have your children returned to you, you would need to show that your children are no longer at risk of significant harm - which can be physical or emotional.
You could try and write to the Director of Social Services for your county / borough or try and get a better solicitor, but children are generally not taken away lightly and for no reason.
2006-08-26 23:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with the fact that the courts are seeing the spouse and the parent of an abused child as both being responsible for the abuse see a local priest but first before you do get your children back read some books on dependency and abuse and see how this made your child feel I don't know all of your story but I will say this Children are defenseless against attacks from a loved one and yet there are million of children abused in our country alone Don't think you are not guilty of this beware that you allowed this to happen and the fact that you want your children back is good but you need to be aware that just because you want them back doesn't mean you are prepared to do what it takes to protect them with your life or make the right decisions when it comes to their welfare So you think you have done nothing to harm your children?
2006-08-26 23:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by truely human 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you are telling the whole story.If you were a good mother,and you have a suitable place to live,there is no logical reason for you not to have your children back.In fact it is the duty of social services to try and keep families together.They won't even let you have unsupervised contact with your children?I can't help wondering why that would be.
2006-08-26 23:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your state. social services is a county level organization. generally there is a district and state licensing organization. social services should tell you who they have to report to. if not browse agencies in your state. one will have social services in its' domain. in wisconsin, they use wi.gov
for organizations within the govt. hope that helps. send an email for additional information. good luck.
2006-08-26 22:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was your ex that hit your child, why are you being punished for it?
why in 2006 you are asking about this, did you not try before to get them back?
you need to add more info so that it can clearly be looked at
2006-08-26 22:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if solicitors are no help maybe try ur local mp. good luck
2006-08-27 05:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Your kids were taken. This is too touchy for me to answer in this forum. Talk to your Judge and lawyer.
2006-08-26 22:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by James S 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
see citizen advice centre
2006-08-27 03:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this too hard for me but good luck
2006-08-26 22:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by fireopal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋