Any advice from other ppl within the military lifestyle what i should do and what you think about this ---- after getting married, i will only have 6 weeks of bliss before he is deployed to iraq.... i have heard so many stories of husbands straying and cheating on there spouses via the internet... so not only do i only have to worry about his safety and well been i also have to worry about his infidelity.... i also need to know what and how you would do to cope about moving to a new state and only living there for 2mths b4 you are left alone (im moving from nc to az)....
2006-08-26 22:19:04 · 6 answers · asked by wild_taz07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know this is hard for you but there are men that don't sleep around. Just keep sending him positive letter. moving wise, think of it as meeting new people. You will meet other army wife. Get a group going to keep you guys going.
2006-08-27 05:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those stories are not all true. My husband is in the Navy and as far as I know, has not cheated on me during his deployment. I do know some military wives who have cheated on their husbands while their husbands were on deployment. At any rate, your situation will be difficult at first, especially since you have to move to a new state and will be left alone shortly. You definitely will be going through a lot of adjustments, first with your new home, second with him being gone. It was tough for me when he was gone the first time, I have to admit but eventually I got used to it. The only difference between you and me is my husband is home based here in Hawaii so that means we don't have to keep moving to diff states. When he's gone, I usually keep myself busy with work and my own activities. It does help though when there's communication between you and your spouse. My advice to you while he's gone would be...get to know your new home, get out there and meet people, find activities of your own you can enjoy and most importantly, if you can communicate with your hubby, do so as much as possible. I won't lie to you, it's going to take some getting used to the "military" lifestyle but you will eventually get used to it. More importantly, don't worry about him cheating. Trust is very important in this situation. Good luck.
2006-08-27 05:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol its not us military guys who cheat its usually the women...We come home from iraq or afganistan to find out wife or g/f long gone with our bestfriend and all the money we made in iraq. But NC is the sh** im from there....Clinton NC...Anywho maybe you shoudlnt move to AZ just yet stay with the parents until he gets back... If you have to move to AZ then basically get a job....Start making the house a home....itwill make time go by alot faster take up college too! Then when you do get to talk to him you can tell him all the things he has to look forward to when he does come home. Also make sure to write letters because the phone calls dont really cut it.... Well thought i was of some help....Later...
2006-08-27 05:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by travis b 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are clueless. Actually, it's more the military WIVES that do the cheating. I guarantee you will cheat on him while he is risking his LIFE in Iraq.
The fact that 6 weeks after you get married he deploys that is going to be even harder on your marriage. Do yourself a favor and WAIT. If you get married it will not last. I promise you.
2006-08-27 05:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good luck. It is a very hard life. Be prepared for him to stray on you. They all do it, not just through the Internet. They hook up with the women in their units. Just keep yourself busy, finding a job or hobby.
2006-08-27 07:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him.
2006-08-27 05:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by a j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋