Should I say Yes to a bully...?

Question

There are these people(girls and some boys) that bullied me 4 a couple of years. Now they want me 2 join their group (called the ***** group they r bitches and so scared at everything) because I should start being like them. they hug every boy (i dont), scream (I dont) and be really mean( i dont). I am the total opposite of them and what should i do. They all have boyfriends (i dont and propably neva have 1 because i am different) and they think they have the boy i will like tho i dont think any boy in that group is hot. The only reason they want me is because 1 of the meanies is my friend in class because i dont have any1 to sit with in classes. What should i do? Please help me!

They always verbally bully me.

Answer 1

Nope...Just be the person who is totally busy and pretend like youre not even aware of the situation.

Answer 2

You don't say in your msg how old you are, so I'm assuming you're in your middle to late teens. This is a very difficult time in all teenagers lives, but through your writing you seem to be a very nice, kind and intelligent person.

What you are considering doing, is the worst thing you could possibly do.

I understand that at this point, the thing you would like most to happen is for the bullying to stop, that is not what will happen here.

All that will happen if you join this group, is that you will end up bullying someone just like yourself, to feel accepted by these losers. You will feel terrible, but you'll do it to keep the trouble away from yourself. It's a fair bet, that some of the ones bullying you are only doing it to keep the heat off themselves, and they will think back on this in years to come and feel terrible. Don't let yourself be dragged down to that level of nastiness.

This will be social suicide for you, both immediately, and in the long run. I know that what happens down the track isn't your top priority at the moment, but if you join this group now, you will be seriously jeopardising your future, in many ways. One person who has answered you already tonight mentioned how he was bullied, then became a bully and now has issues with anger. I'm sure if you asked him, he would tell you that this behavioural trait has been a problem for him throughout his life.

Believe me when I tell you that of that entire group of bullies, not a single one of them has a true friend.

Use this difficult time to concentrate on your school work, and boost your self esteem.No one successful has ever admitted to being a bully. It is not cool, and it doesn't last....

Be strong and take care...

Answer 3

Now why would you want to belong to a group of people that you have absolutely nothing in common with? They are just wanting you in their group so they have someone (easy) to pick on that won't mind if they use if they were to get into trouble. Let's say they do something really mean to someone else, and the only one left to be seen is you, do you honestly think those other people in that group are going to stand behind you and say that they are the ones that did that mean thing to that person? HECK NO!!

Look, When I was growing up, I let this girl beat the crap out of me on a daily basis only because I didn't know how to fight back. But, you know what I did? I began to ignore her and eventually she left me alone and moved on with her life. This is sort of the same thing you have to do with your life. Move on and leave those nasty girls to their own messes.

When you're ready, the right boy will come along and then you will both know your right for one another. Don't rush into a relationship with a boy you're not sure about, just to fit in with a group of other girls that are seeming to be tough.

Take your time, live your own life. Don't let anyone else tell you how to live yours.

I hope this helps you to make the right decision.

JUST SAY NO!!

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are but socializing is hard enough anyway and being friends with people that have nothing in common with you and especially when they are mean to you already and probably mean to others is just a bad idea. You can and will find your own way without these bullies in your life. Be friendly and there will be good people that will gravitate to you. Be careful though, as there are bad people out there as well. Don't set yourself up for hurt or humiliation. You sound like a nice person that is trying to sort out some mighty big issues. Trust your instincts and stay away from those that would do your harm. And that would be those bullies. Good luck.

Answer 5

I believe you already know the answer to this question. Why would you want to be in a group that are bullies just to fit in? They are nothing but a gang and looking for trouble. Join their group and you will be in over your head and not able to get out of a bad situation. The kids in this group are in for a long life of trouble with the law. Don't go there.

Answer 6

I feel very sorry for you being bullied,there is far too much of this going on in schools and colleges. The reason they are bullies is because they are insecure themselves and feel they need to be in a group for more strength. If they were on their own, they probably would be the nicest person you could wish to meet. Dont join them because you are a better person than they will ever be. It is better to be on your own than be with a group that are hated by everyone. Good luck and remember, you are who you are and dont let anyone change you.

Answer 7

Dont sink to their level, keep your head down and if they bother you then just speak in some made up lanuage and say its latin and their all too thick to know what it means. And get a recorder or somthing a little voice recorder record all they say to you all week, then at the end of the week leave the tape on the head masters desk, after each recording when they're gone say the names of the people who said it the day and the time, make sure they don't think its possible for you to speak to a teacher, so you don't just put the tape in the head masters desk, or give it to reception instructing them of your being bullied and the tape is evidence. If they still bother you after that change schools. But don't even sink to their level.

Answer 8

Screw 'em. There's no reason what-so-ever for you to be a part of that kind of social circle. They sound like horrible people and you seem to have a good head on your shoulders for already being able to recognize that. I think you should stick to your feelings and beliefs and stay away from them. It's better to be different sometimes. You don't have to be mean when you tell them you don't want to be a part of their group, just don't let them bully you into thinking that you need them or any of that BS. Sooner or later you will find your true group of friends that you can relate to and like you for exactly who you are. You will respect yourself more if you don't give in. My best goes out to you,
Sage

Answer 9

Why would you join a group like that? After awhile, you would be the exact same thing as what they are. If you're happy being yourself and respect yourself, dont do it. If you want to go along with the crowd and be a sheep, go ahead. We cant make that decision for you. You sound very mature and a lovely person as you are now.

Answer 10

Take my advice....do NOT follow these people. High school sounds like it will take forever to finish but it does and if you end up joinging these guys you might do something that you regret. College is a place to start over and I promise you that you will find great friends and a boyfriend cuz everyone is cool is college. There are no bullys or "special" groups.

Answer 11

Find a new group of people to hang with

Try the less popular kids, they always get good grades and in the long run you will too! treat people how you want to be treated and don't put people down just because they are different. It will all work out in the long run, especially for you as a grown up/