I believe nowadays this trend is becoming rare in our society...now a girl gets to know a guy from school and college and call him her boyfriend then they get engaged then married but will that last..i mean my mom told me the problems arise when their parents meet each other...
I also have another question..i'm not that kind of girl and i also kinda disagree on arranged marriages since u get to meet someone u never knew before...what do u think will i ever get married?
2006-08-26 22:02:11 · 6 answers · asked by what goes around comes around 3 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
I actually don't think it is that horrible to have an arranged marriage although I think that both the man and the woman should have the final say. I mean until recently it was normal for your parents to select someone for you. And the thing is people seem to still want it. I mean what are dating services but matchmakers. People get afraid of being alone and just want to find someone to marry. Obviously you should have something in common and get to know each other a bit first but there seem to be lots of couples who choice each other and then get divorced in 1 or 2 years. In any marriage you have to work on love and romance or it will fade so I don't think you can't fall in love with your arranged spouse. As for if you will get married? I don't know how old you are but I didn't get married until I was 27, just this spring actually and I wouldn't have wanted to get married any sooner. I really enjoyed my 20's and had lots of adventures and learned a lot about myself. Don't be in a rush. It will happen in time.
2006-08-28 23:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tihnk a blend of the 2 methods since you are from a different generation than your parents ans g'parents, its natural you may want more of a "say" in choosing a spouse...that said, family ties still play a huge part in successful marriages, if the two sides totally dont get along, the couple will have a reduced slection of support persons to surround them in good times and bad. What my son did is that he was introduced by a family member,a cousin, to a nice young lady-who was her friend. They spoke on the phone, met and had some conversations, supervised and in person, they spoke some more on phone and made the decsion to get married-somewhat "arranged" and somewhat on their own. Neither one had any pressure or felt forced.They avoided a boyfiend girlfriend situation which can cheapen the relationship and cause problems. They are happy now but of course, had to learn to live together which is never easy for anyone, (even a roomate in college of same sex can be hard t olive with) SO, use your heart and respect your family to the extent that it is not abusive to you, and good luck, may God give you a happy and successful marriage.
2006-08-27 07:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a half Egyptian male and the thought of some poor couple being forced into marriage by old fashioned parents is archaic. I think the process was originally used to build bonds between tribes and businesses but never lost its attraction, as families could almost sell of their daughters for financial gain or public status. Then there is the barbaric practise of families allowing rapists to marry their victim to give back the family honour (problem being if a suitor was rejected by the family, he could simply wait for her to leave her home and then rape her, then the family has no choice), rather than them murdering their own child for the sake of face. Marriage should be about two people who are in love with each other agreeing to share a union together for life(or as long as they can stand each other). Marry who you want, not your parents!!!
2006-08-27 05:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by zac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriege is great if you have the intention of making things better
2006-08-27 05:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by vertigohashem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u an Egyptian girl?
I am an Egyptian girl & I wish we could chat sometime,we can discuss it
2006-08-27 13:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
extremely tough thing. browse on to a search engine. that might help!
2014-11-13 05:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋