how can i get my dad to let go?

Question

ok so im starting highschool as a freshman on august 31 on wednesday. and my dad wants me to play football and stuff. i really dont want to. beacuase im gonna have practice like, every day for like 4 hours in the hot nevada sun. which is totally gonna suck. i've played 2 seasons previously, and it was ok. but now im more serious about getting good grades so that i can pass highs chooll. cause you know what they say.."do more work in highschool so you have less work in your future". I keep telling my dad taht i want to get good grades and he just says "BULLSH*T!!!" i frikkin hate his ***. and if i dont play all my stuff is gonna be gone, computer,videogames, TV, and i wont "get" any new stuff anymore. i talk to my mom and she used to be on my side and now she's on my dad's and so is my auntie and i dont know what to do, so can anyone give me advice to let my dad know i dont want to play football and still keepp all my belongings?

Answer 1

too easy.

Do the practice thing for those couple of weeks and get cut.

Dad can't argue with that...you satisfied his ambition for your future.
Check the block and mve on.

Answer 2

I have the same problem. My dad wants me to play football, even though i have a scholarship to Washington University at St. Louis as a computer/Video Game programmer, but he wont provide any of the neccessary documents (income statements, tax returns, etc.) to get the scholarship, and if i dont get a 3.0 or higher, ill lose my scholarship opportunity. All my dad says is: (it wont matter if you get that scholarship, as long as you're playing football, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah) My only advice is to just tell your parents how you feel about it, and if things get out of control, get counseling at your school, or, if need be, stay with a close friend or a relative who is neutral on the situation for a day or two. I have left my house to stay with a friend too many times to count these past years, so at least it is good to know that im not the only person who dad acts like a tyrannical 3-year-old dictator (no offense, mine does anyway)

Answer 3

Play. You are given a chance that a lot of kids your age do not get. I would have given anything to play football for our school if they had a team. Unfortunately they did not. Being outside and exercising is much better for you than to be sitting around the house playing playstation and surfing the web all day. You will have the rest of your life to do that unless you decide to get married and have kids then your fun time is over. Your dad knows what he is talking about.

Answer 4

Have a serious talk with your Dad. Tell him that you are capable of getting very good grades but you have to focus totally on school rather than after school activities. If he continues to give you crap about and you end up having to play football just play horrible so you can get cut from the team.

Answer 5

It's not worth it if it's not what you want to do. You have to please yourself first in some situations, and this is definitely one of them. It sounds like your dad is trying to live out an athletic career vicariously through you. Maybe you should discuss this with your parents some more. Good parents would just want you to be happy...

Of course, I don't know any of the background here, that's just a general take.

Answer 6

I doubt that you really wanna stop playing football so you can concentrate on studies... haha

Anyway just tell him you don't like it and you find it a waste of time. Studies are more important.

Answer 7

Just ask you Dad to please have a talk with you in your room or outside somewhere. And lay it all out for him, by telling him how you feel. Just be open and honest. Things always seem worse than they really are. It will be alright, just tell him the truth.