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OKAY THE QUESTION MAY NOT HAVE BEEN CLEAR, I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO CLEAR MY WIFES THOUGHTS AND MAKE HER FEEL COMFY ABOUT ME LEAVING?

im leaving for basic training sept 12 2006, and my wife has been in for about 2 and 1/2 yrs already, i was cool with her leave and didnt really stress the whole time she was gone except for when she had just left. she is really hurting about me leaving even though it is all for a good cause. im going army and she i air force but has 4 yrs left im going in for 6yrs. we have a 3yr old boy, and i am dedicated to her, and its hard toknow where i will be but i want her head to be in the right place. we are both 23yrs old. been together since 16, got married at 18 had a baby at 20, and went to the same elemenatry, jr high and high school. i dont know what to do. i am going to take care of my family but try to understand my situation.
I NEED FEMALE INFO ON WHAT I COULD DO DURING SCHOOL TO MAKE YOU FEEL COMFY? I WANT HER TO NOT WORRY. HELP, WOMEN?

2006-08-26 21:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by CATCH 22 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

8 answers

Being a military spouse is hard but I am sure when both are enlisted it comes with a little more strain. Just continue to allow her to know that you love her, support her and are dedicated. Maybe buy a whole bunch of greeting cards to have someone mail for you while you are away.. if you are allowed to have access to a phone.. take the time to call her. If you are lucky enough to have a web cam and internet access - use is often. Maybe contact a local florist and have them send her flowers from time to time.. For your child, record yourself reading bed time stories, post a photo of yourself.. it will work out.

Hugs Mel

2006-08-26 21:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1 1

My husband and I are also both going into the AF again. He is going in Pararescue and im going in as an officer. We've thought about this time and time again. We've spoken to many recruiters and made sure that there will be a way to keep us both together. Because of are specialties it will not be a problem matching us up (im a nurse). But then again, we will be in the same branch. The AF does a good job of keeping you together. Now the problem is that you are going into the Army while she's in the AF...I understand why you might be doing that....Im going to take a guess and say its because the Army recruited you and the AF is not currentlt taking new enlistees???right? Well I really dont know how this is going to work out for you because you will work on 2 very different types of bases...But if you want to put at her at ease...take her with you to meet with your recruiter. Discuss any options you make have to work together with the AF and the Army to get you somewhere that has both types of bases in close vicinity. Maybe can get off-base housing and commute to your respective bases for work. I dont know if its possible or if any such bases exist but you wont know if you dont ask. Plus you might want to discuss if your wife wants to take advantage of the AF early release program and get out of the military and follow you around....(This program is in effect due to downsizing of the AF inorder to increase the numbers in the Army). Get her involved and make her see that you are doing everything in your power to live your dream and keep your family together...Give her options....it shows that you care. Lastly...comunicate..very importnat especially since you might be living the next couple years of your relationship from a distance. I hope it works out for you....Thank You both for being part of the military!

2006-08-26 23:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by knufflebunny 2 · 1 0

Why are you going into the Army when your wife is in the Air Force? When do you plan on seeing each other over the next three years? You should have thought ahead.

2006-08-26 21:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ray 7 · 1 1

Excuse me. You are going in the army and she is in the air force. You both will not be together for at least four years other than leaves. Are you nuts.

She is upset because she knows this. Four years and you think 30 days leave per year with wife and child will be enough. Again are you nuts.

You have just put the death sentence on your marriage. 11 months apart per year for four years isn't going to work.

No wonder she is upset.

Don't you even think that the Army and Air Force are going to try to keep you together. It ain't going to happen. They might tell you it will but again its not going to happen.

2006-08-26 21:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0 2

it is not like there is something we are able to help..u in simple terms desire somebody to take heed to you. yet 6 years does appear as if a protracted time...is it particularly worth it to sacrifice the time with your loved ones for protection rigidity stuff? nicely, if u think of so..then good good fortune!

2016-12-14 12:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by hillis 4 · 0 0

The military has counseling available for families. They have dealt with situations like this before and can help you.

2006-08-26 21:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by salsera 5 · 0 1

i think you are making a very bad choice. your wife probably feels like you are abondoning her. your joining the army and she's in the air force. i mean it really is only your decision, but i can understand why she's pissed about it.

2006-08-26 21:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 4 · 0 2

so your wife left a SIX MONTHS old with you and joined the military,and you want her to feel comfy,THIS STORY SOUNDS GREAT FOR A MOVIE, signed BULL

2006-08-26 21:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by bull 5 · 0 2

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