im in love with a married man we been talking for about a year he doesent get along with his wife and they never spend time together she has caught us sending text to each other but he still talks to me i ask him all the time why dont he leave her and its the same thing he says he has been married to her for 20 years and thats all he knows but why does he keep talking to me and he knows i love him
2006-08-26 21:11:59 · 31 answers · asked by Manda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's looking for a bit on the side. He'll never leave his wife, he's made that point clear. You'll be his mistress.
2006-08-26 21:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please wake us this man does not love you he loves the thrill of risking being caught you are on the outside of his life and that is where he wants to keep you he will never leave his wife for you.If you have been chatting for a year and his wife has found texts was that not a perfect opportunity for him to tell his wife he loved you and was leaving her? but he didn't i'd bet money he apologised and told her how much he loved HER. This man is using you and if he knows how you feel about him he will use that to HIS advantage.
My advice..
Cut him off have no more contact with him any longer he is a married man possibly with children who will also be hurt as will you and the wife go and find a man of your own a real man. Say even if he did leave his wife for you could you ever trust him knowing he had an affair once with you
2006-08-26 21:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say love but this guy has been married for what was it 20 years thats a longtime and he'd be lapping up any kind of attention he can get at the moment.
My advise would be to ditch him hes a married man do you really want to be the person who breaks up a 20year old marriage. And even if he considered leaving his wife for you, would you be able to trust him knowing what he does to his wife now.
I no it may hurt but in the end its always better to find your own man and start a family than it is to break someone elses family up.
This reply isint to offend you i feel for you really but when its time for you to find your soul mate dear i can garentee you he wont be a married man with a wife. Sorry
2006-08-26 21:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by realchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that there are a couple of things you could do.
You could continue to talk with him and perhaps let the relationship develop further, becoming his mistress, as someone else said.
Then, you could spend the next few years waiting and hoping that he'll leave his wife, while he lives the fantasy of having two women. Maybe after a while, he'll start to talk about leaving her for you, so that you'll hope for a few more years, before you finally realise that it isn't going to happen and move on.
OR........... you could save yourself (and his wife) the hassle and move along now. I'm guessing you'd like a relationship with someone who loves only you and it's possible, but not like this.
Have some self-respect.
2006-08-26 21:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Claudia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't let go of his marriage he can not commit to you. So he's unhappy, so he's unfulfilled in his relationship. If he's half the man he claims why doesn't he bust a move and end the marriage (if he's unhappy she probably is also).
After a year you pretty much sound like a booty call. Is that how you want it?
If he respected the marriage he would have let his wife know he is unhappy. Then they could decide together wheather or not to continue , but since he entered into a relationship with you behind his wife's back I have no respect for his integrity.
But if you want to screw off another year of your life, don't blame him. BLAME YOURSELF!!!!!!!!
2006-08-26 21:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by mzpickles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up. he will never give up. to break a marriage is not easy and u didn't mention if there r kids involved, that can be a main reason for him not to leave her.
and even if he will leave her, do u want to hear from him for the rest of ur relation that he left her for u and now its not the way he wanted???
anyhow, how old are u??? if he is married 20 years and if u are a single, u are probably also to young. means u will be stuck with an old man very soon.
2006-08-26 21:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sweetie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's stringing you along. Wants to have his cake and eat it too. Unfortunately, it is rare that a man will leave his wife for his mistress. They are just looking for some diversion from what they already have. My advice would be to try and get over him and find yourself a man who wants to love only you. Good luck!
2006-08-26 21:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by starrynight1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Do you think he will be more true to you than his current wife? When things get a bit boring, or a bit normal, he will be with another you. Marriage isn't easy, and you are giving him an “out”. Darn woman. Go get “in love” with a man who hasn't vowed to be with another. You think you are that special one to be his true love? Only until you have to face life together, and he will seek another fanatsy. I am an old man and have seen this MANY times
2006-08-26 21:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We dont even know the whole situation apart from he doesnt like his wife, so its kinda hard to give good advice out of the loop and if you do get advice here it will based on other peoples life experiences which might not be the best for you.
2006-08-26 21:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegsfreddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what love is. You're the problem. Why you want to go out with a married man anyway? Move on. And grow up.
2006-08-26 21:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by MrZ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋