First off, my exwife, who left me, has called me, for one reason or another, every few days since she left me. Just so you know, we don't have children so we don't have to talk or see each other for any reason. Furthermore, I never contact her no matter what.
I hadn't heard from her in about a week. During our last conversation, we put to bed any and every reason for us to ever talk again. Anyway, she called me the other morning to tell me she had dreams about me.
Why do you think she does this?
I will tell you that it is very hard on me.
2006-08-26 20:20:06 · 22 answers · asked by Cing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am feeling your pain, man!
Am there...doing that! too..........
2006-08-28 20:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by RangerBob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a big part of each other's lives. Just because she chose not to be married to you does NOT mean she wants you out of her life completely. She is obviously having a hard time adjusting to you being gone...even though this was her decision. Maybe she still loves you, but there are certain circumstances that prevent you from having a healthy marriage. What were the reasons for the divorce in the first place? You need to communicate to find the root of her actions...only then will you really know her agenda.
2006-08-26 20:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by DawnMarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just is having a hard time letting it go like you can. Is there anyway you two can remain friends, and she won't feel she has lost you completely? For some of us it';s much harder and she could be afraid of the idea of loosing you for ever and never ever be chance again. Maybe take it easy on her until she adjust to the fact, that marriage may be over but yous can be friends, didn't say that yous fight a lot.
2006-08-26 21:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep answering when she calls? Even if you don't want to be flat out rude you can certainly be 'busy' everytime she calls and after that happens a few times she'll quit. As for why...who cares? The why, her motives and her agenda don't really count for much, all that should matter is that its hard on you and she is the one that walked away so the why that does matter is why you keep letting her do it.
2006-08-26 20:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she regrets leaving you and want you back. Otherwise I don't see why she would be calling you so often. She shouldn't be calling you at all. It's over. Why is it hard on you? Do you feel like having her back? If not, change your phone number and cut the ties once and for all. Or get caller ID and not answer her calls at all.
I think she's not stable after the divorce. She's got mental problems.
2006-08-26 20:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i broke up with my first husband he used to come over all the time and I couldn't get him to leave...my father of my boy well he stalked me for years. God only knows why people behave the way they do I guess some ppl leave you or call it off and don't mean it they mean please try real hard to get me back I still love ya.... If you don't want her to call change your number make it silent she'll get the hint.
2006-08-26 20:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this has nothing to do with stalking,wanting you or wanting to mess up with your mind.Ok, she was the one who left you and you need to realize that divorce is like death ,the pain is even worst.All she wants is closure and you need to work on that with her so she can finally move on and let you go.People sometimes don'tgive importance to others felings and this can sometimes increse the problems.oviusly your marriage and relationship meant more to her than to you when you have to ask about her behavior and don't see it yourself.CLOSURE
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2006-08-29 05:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by jubileejoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for her to miss you. You two once had a special bond, and that isn't going to go away just by getting a divorce.
Both of you need to find some way to get some closure and move on.
2006-08-26 20:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably feeling insecure about the breark up.
When she says things like that ask her specifically....why do you want me back?
Another option is to get caller ID on your phone and don't answer when she calls you.
Do you want her back? If you do it has to be all or nothing.........she can't contintue to jerk you around like this. Tell her that she made her choice to leave.........so stop calling.
2006-08-26 20:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only as hard as you make it, it seems you want the contact as much as she does.. or do you want a new life and a clean break?
your choice, your future
being toyed with emotionally from her has no benefit what so ever
it's over
keep it there
so no more contact
go out and clear your head of thought of the both of you
and then date
and remember her no more
pretty soon you be with another girl and you will not care one bit about your ex
that in itself does not make you insensitive, it only make you human as you move foward and not backward in life
2006-08-26 20:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is f-ing with your mind. Either that or she is having second thoughts about her decision. The question is do you want her back if so keep answering her calls. If not get caller ID
2006-08-26 20:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by mglee1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋