I'll be 15 soon, and he'll be 18 in a few months. We want to get pregnant before he turns 18 so he doesn't get in trouble for supposed sagatory "rape" of me. In my state, if you have a child and are 15, you can get married and become a legal adult. (My boyfriend checked). We've been trying for 4 months with no luck. We have sex as much as possible when I'm not having my period, and of course not using any birth control (condoms, the pill, etc). But still no pregnancy.
We only have a few months left. We need this baby so I can marry him and move out of my home life (I have no mother, my dad is a drunk).
My boyfriend has a good job, he's the Assistant Manager of a clothing store and makes about 1,800 dollars a month, and the health care program is very reasonable for a small family. It's not a ton of money, but it's enough for an apartment, and once I'm legally an adult I can get a job too.
Please tell me how to better get pregnant, we are running out of time!!!
2006-08-26 20:11:18 · 27 answers · asked by Tyla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Sorry about this, I'm really 19 and not at all in this situation, I just wanted to see if people would actually help someone like this. Sorry for my late night curiosity.
2006-08-26 20:23:48 · update #1
wow your such a smart girl, you've got it all planned out and your only 15,yeah right! your other questions all state that you are 19 your so full of shiit girl
.............. so what are you going to name the baby?
oh yeah and perhaps you should better learn england cause yours is terrible; red-neck looser
THIS GIRL IS A TIME WASTING BIMBO
2006-08-26 20:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Vicky 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I just don't know why you're so eager to get pregnant.... I'm 14 myself and my dad used to be an alcoholic, up until very recently, and my mother lives 4 hours away, so I see her once every 6-8 weeks. I guess you could say I was in the same situation as you. I can understand exactly how you feel about your home life but don't you know what you have to consider before becoming pregnant? Because once you are pregnant, you won't be able to change your mind. What if you get pregnant and your boyfriend splits up with you? I just think you've got too much on your plate as it is to be thinking about marriage, housing and pregnancy/birth. Will your boyfriend be making enough money to support the three of you? Do you plan on home schooling yourself while caring for your daughter/son? Can you really afford the costs of everything you have to think about?
I'm sorry that I couldn't offer more help, but you really need to make sure this is the decision you want to make, and if so, just keep trying and make sure your boyfriend spends very little and puts all his money into a savings account. Also, if you do get pregnant.... don't drink or smoke, it will seriously affect your (and your baby's) health.
2006-08-26 20:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you were really almost 15 and your boyfriend almost 18 I would tell you this: I was 14 and my boyfriend 17 and he convinced me I wanted a baby. I wanted it to get away from my mother. It was not a good idea and I regretted it later. Being a teenage mom is not a good idea, most of the time the father doesn't even stick around and if he wants to marry you just so he doesn't get in trouble don't do it.
P.S. I don't believe you are 19..what the hell is sagatory rape? It is statutory rape.
2006-08-26 21:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UPDATE TO ORIGINAL ANSWER after I read your profile:
I can't believe I wasted my time answering your question with all the slop I wrote below.
Are you 19 or 15? Stop wasting people's time with your head games.
Along with the myriad of answers aboveI have to agree, STOP. I'm 39, I just had my first kid and it is killing me and my wife. I love my daughter and we waited a long time until we were ready. I work and she is an artist that is able to work from home so she can stay with the baby instead of us having to get daycare which saves us at least $500 per month).
Let me ask you a question... Can you afford $500 per month? not on your boyfirend's salary. That means you would have to work just to pay for daycare.
Do you like sleeping? If you do than kiss it goodbye because you won't be getting enough ever again.
Are you going to breast feed? If so, than realize that everytime the baby wakes for a feeding you will be up for at least 2 hours and your boyfriend will sleep through it.
Do you enjoy being with your friends and going places? Well, kiss that goodbye, you're friends have better things to do.
Do you enjoy back aches? I suppose that you'll get used to them.
I could do this all night.
BOTTOM LINE. Stop having sex, dump your boyfriend (he's not a thinker), go to school, get a part time job at a sandwich shop, graduate, go to junior college and get a career. You'll find that things will fall into place a lot better if you don't force them. Then, when you find the 'right' guy you can settle down and have a kid. REMEMBER... you're not making a kid, you're making an excuse. That's what your Dad did.
2006-08-26 20:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by 29moons 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What the hell is wrong with you? I hope to Goddess this doesn't work out for you. What you're doing is not only wrong but so very, very selfish.
"We need this baby so I can marry him and move out of my home life..."
There is no mention of wanting to provide a loving, nurturing home for the child. You just "need" it to get what you want. That is not a reason to have a child. And you are so very young. Do you have any idea what it takes to raise a child. I was 25 when I had my first baby and it was a hell of a lot of work. I was so grateful I waited because it would have been tough doing that before I was emotionally ready. You are NOT emotionally ready. That is obvious because you want this baby for all the wrong reasons.
$1800/month!!! Are you kidding me? Do you really think that is going to support a baby? And already you're talking about working too which means you have no intention of raising the child yourself but throwing it into daycare. Nice. Plus, you do realize daycare costs money.
You are so totally naive and just stupid. I feel terribly sorry for this child if you actually get pregnant. I really hope you grow up, wisen up and make a better choice here.
2006-08-26 20:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please stop. I know these seem like good reasons to have a child but they will seem pretty pitiful in a few years. Your boyfriend's "good job" will be pretty scanty for 3 of you to live on. Do you really think any employer wants to hire a pregnant 15 year old? What about when you need to take off for the birth? You won't qualify for maternity leave yet before you need it. You really need to sit down with a social worker or guidance counselor to see if there are other alternatives to get you away from your father if things are this bad.
2006-08-26 20:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry u have such a hard life... But there are other ways out besides having a child... It's so unfair to have a child only as means of you escaping. You can't USE a human being for personal means, let alone your own baby!
Even if you think you're ready, and that you'll love it, you're just gonna screw up it's life like your parents did yours. Do you think that's fair? However mature you are, you're just psychologically not ready to have and raise happy babies.
I think you need to consider other options, otherwise, you're just feeding the chain of unhappy children...
2006-08-26 20:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Zeina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg if you were child i would be grounding you. I never even thought about having a child at that age, i was to busy hanging out with friends, and of course partying, but i still went to school. I dont think you need to bring a baby into this world just yet, finish school first, then think about having a child. I got pregnant at 17 yrs old, and, i dont regret it, but i was to young, ive been married six yrs now. just wait.
2006-08-26 20:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a baby to leave home and keep him out of jail What a wonderful reason to bring a child into this world. He knows what he is doing is wrong,but he is getting an abundance of jollies all the while praying you don't get pregnant.Talk to your father.I'm sure your plans will sober him up!
2006-08-26 20:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Pat C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all your other questions you say you're 19 and your BF is 19. What's up with that? This is the same guy who wants a second girlfriend, and you're the same girl who was locked in a cage naked and can't remember except for the photos. Ugh. People come here to help others, and to get help for themselves, not to play stupid jokes and make up stupid stories for no your benefit.
2006-08-26 20:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 01:09:05 · answer #11 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋