WELL IVE BEEN W/MA B/F FOR 3YRS, THIS IS A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP IM IN TX HES IN CHICAGO THE 1ST COUPLE OF MONTHS I CHEATED ON HIM N HE ADMITTED 2 CHEATIN ON ME 2 I LEARNED 2 TRUST HIM AGAIN BUT HE COULDNT DO DA SAME 4 ME EVER SINCE THEN HES BEEN CONTROLLIN MY EVERY MOVE HE GETS A BAD TEMPER WHEN I DONT LISTEN 2 HIM HE THEN STARTS CALLIN ME A B**** STUPID A** HE JUS MAKES ME CRY SOOOO MUCH N I LUV DIS GUY A LOT IVE DONE EVEYTHING 4 HIM 2 TRUST ME BUT HES REALLY CONTROLLIN N POSSESIVE N MEAN..!!!!HELP DO U THINK HE CAN CHANGE WUT ELES SHOULD I DO?????BY THE WAY IM 19YRS OLD HES 22...SHOULD I MOVE ON PLEAZ...HELP ME!!! AT TIMES HE CAN B A SWEETHEART BUT HE TREATS ME MORE BAD THAN NICE.
2006-08-26 19:55:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well speaking from my own experience I dated a fella similar to guy your seeing now, except we were from the same small town. I was very young and naive at the time and did not realize what a jerk he really was until after we were married.
I was in love with him, I took my marriage vows very seriously, and turned a blind eye to try to only see the good in him. I slowly came to the realization that he would never change. He played me for a fool, he was a no good cad, with more tricks than a magician.
Not only was he running around on me, he was verbally and physically abusive. That man was so jealous and controlling I couldn't even go to the corner store with out him or one of his friends shadowing my every move.
It ended up in a divorce a few years later, but let me tell you that no woman should ever put up with that type of crap from any guy married or not. I made a huge mistake staying in my marriage trying to "change him" into a respectable honest person. All it got me was a lot of heart break and some pretty deep battle scars emotionally.
Do yourself a big favor sweetie and get as far a way from him as you can. Find someone who will treat you with respect, and give you encouragement to blossom into your full potential. This guy will do nothing but break not only your heart but yourself esteem and your spirit.
Best of wishes.
2006-08-26 20:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Gotta Love My GSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a decision.. this way or that way. What i can make out is that there is a lack of basic trust between you too. If someone really loves someone.. that person would never abuse other person.
Respect for each other forms the basics of a stable relationship.
I would leave the final decision to you , but my suggestion would be to move away from him.. not slowly but in one go also keep yourself preoccupied so that you dont get time to think about ur past.
2006-08-26 20:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by System Wizard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all its not good to have a long distance relationship because hes not always there for u when u are in need of any type of love and basically thats the reason u 2 cheated
2006-08-26 19:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should leave him i mean after all.. if a man treats you more badly then he is nice to you i don't think he loves you because if he did love you he would at lease try and work things out with you. personality i'm kinda going through the same thing i been with my x for 2 years and he cheated on me and this was just a few days ago i broke up with him and now he was calling me worthless one day. now sweetie i'm only 17 and even though i love my x very much i think you should move on because your also young and a real man would never try and hurt you
2006-08-26 20:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even waste your time with this creep! My sister was in a situation of the same calliber but maybe a little worse. He is not going to change so you should do the change for him and leave his dumb @ss.
2006-08-26 20:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by devildog75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true man should control his temper. If you don't feel honor and cherished by him. Maybe he is not the one. Pray and ask the Lord Jesus wants He wants you to do.
2006-08-26 19:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try talking to him see how he feels if you truely love him.
personally i think you are way too young to think this is true love because if you really did love him you would get your legal [over18] @SS over here in chicago [btwimfromchicago] and move in with him or at least move near him. and if he treats you that bad that i think he does more than verbally abuse you.. you should move on and tell that b@st@rd to kiss your @SS :]
2006-08-26 20:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jaybabii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use step-mom's CPU. I'm 23/m/Tx. You will learn much soon. Don't doubt your worth. If he is this childish, find a "grown up" man. (preferably not me)
2006-08-26 20:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Susan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's controlling...especially from a distance, then yes, it is time to move on.
2006-08-26 19:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> one should swim through the relationships only till it makes you feel happy.. there is no meaning of swimming downstream in the sea of r'shps <<
2006-08-26 20:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by theprifactor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋