Hi, I'm a single mother who doesn't have a job right now. In the past, I could never hold/keep a job because I always quit due to depression. Currently, I am on welfare or collecting child support from my ex-husband. My ex-husband made an argument with me saying that it's not ok for me to stay home with my child and take care of him full-time when I could be working instead by making money to help pay the bills. I am also a full-time student in college. I am working on getting a degree in Education and I want to be a teacher some day. However, there is a chance that I may get disability and not have to work because I am hearing-impaired in both ears and I may have a mental incapability to work a full-time job. I could probably work part-time while on disability, but I don't have to. Do you think I'm a loser because I'm not working (and on welfare)? Is my ex-husband right? Should I be working?
2006-08-26 19:53:15 · 6 answers · asked by angelolori1976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not like you are sitting around doing nothing. You are going to school to better yourself and your life. As long as the welfare is temporary and you plan to be a productive citizen in the future I see nothing wrong with postponing work for school and the well being of your child.
2006-08-26 20:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kim H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Staying home & raising a child is the hardest job you will ever have for the least amount of pay. After you consider your disabilities & abilities, also consider if it's even worth working after you pay for childcare, gas etc....
2006-08-26 20:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot support your child, you should not have had one. If you are going to school to get a job, this is okay and do not worry about the fact that you cannot support yourself and your child now. If you are going to school just to have something to do and never expect to work later then you should be ashamed of your behavior. You are not acting like an adult.
2006-08-26 21:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Richard 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No your not a loser,your husband(ex)had to have known all of this when he married you.He's the loser.If you can't work,don't take care of your child,and yourself,good luck.
2006-08-26 20:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a lot to handle, I guess the real question should be, Is it acceptable to live like this? Do you have any dreams to accomplish? Don't give up. you need to do what is best for you and your kid. I would work if you can reasonably handle it and will help accomplish what needs to be done.
2006-08-26 20:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by mburleigh8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to stay home, but it is wrong for your ex-husband to attack motherhood.
2006-08-26 20:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋