Why women get uptight if guys admire what they’re flaunting as when they are falling out of their clothes!?

Question

I’m just an average guy, as horny as the next one and I’m also a Grandpa. There’s this chick that I see each morning at the bus stop on the way to work. She dresses very provocatively, almost exposing her boobs. I can even see if she’s wearing thongs! She tries to flirt yet acts indignant when looked at, but no words exchanged. So what’s with that? Women especially invited to respond.

Answer 1

You know I've always wondered that myself. She wouldn't dress like that if she didn't want people to look at her. It irritates me that she's giving other women a bad name. I expect to be looked at if I'm dressed sexy, that's kind of the point. I dress conservatively if I want to blend in.

Answer 2

Think about the pressures on women to be both sexy AND not 'give too much away.' A huge segment of the media (music videos, movies, advertising, and magazines leading the way) says over and over again that a woman's value is in her sex appeal -- and they define sex appeal as certain types of provocative dress.

And it gets reinforced by the attitudes of the men she encounters along the way.

But then, a woman isn't supposed to be *too* sexy. Especially in the U.S., which is quite uptight about sex and the disdain can be palpable.

It's very possible that the woman at your bus stop is quite insecure about herself and lacks real confidence. So she goes along with this idea that she needs to dress and act a certain way. But it takes a lot of confidence and self-assurance to cope with the kind and amount of attention which that receives. Can you see how this is an impossible bind, trying to find one's self-worth by reducing oneself to the sum of one's body parts?

If you want to change the interaction, then ignore the clothing and flirting and treat her just as you would anyone else at the bus stop.

Answer 3

OH poor Grampa,

Some women dress to what they think the fashion industry tells them is "chic". No matter if it might actually be in bad taste on the streets of the country. If the fashion folks send the message to wear looooow cut blouses they do it. There is one women on CSI New York that has far too much exposed for a "professional" crime investigator. Bad taste if you ask me.

A lack of modesty often elicits a lack of respect.

Answer 4

I think that there's a big difference between being "admired" and being oggled and drooled over and stared at like a collection of body parts. It's terribly rude to "stare" at certain parts of a woman.

Maybe she's dressing nicely for someone else and not for every Tom, Dick or Harry. Should she dress like a cow until she gets to work and change there in order to be treated with respect and dignity and not a "thing" to entertain men along the way?

Maybe it makes HER feel good to look good in provocative clothes. It doesn't have to have anything to do with wanting strangers to stare at her boobs and ***.

Just because someone dresses sexy doesn't mean they want EVERYONE to stare hungrily at them. It might make them feel good or it might be for just one person.

Avert your stare buddy and smile into her eyes. She'll treat you a lot nicer if you treat her with respect and not as eye candy.

Answer 5

The female brings it upon herself. If she dresses like that she might as well be screaming "DO ME NOW". Not many women know that flaunting what they have can really give a MALE the wrong impression. She may think she looks good, but there are others ways to be attractive. You know deep down inside they want to you to want them! They like to play with your mind. If GOD only made heterosexual women there would be no males in this world to dress provocatively for. Who would we have to impress? Every girl does it for attention. EVEN ME IF I HAD SOMTHING TO FLAUNT, I would make sure to get his attention by wearing a magenta hot pink booty flawser under a short white see through micro-mini skirt and crop top tee with all my boobies hanging out. Girls if a mans penis is sticking out of his pants, you know damn well you are NOT going to be looking at his eyes!!!

Answer 6

The thing is....women only want to be looked at by men they find attractive. We only dress for them and when an unwanted looker is looking we are disgusted or bothered by it. It's really stupid, but we are that way. And, we want to be noticed but not oogled or stared at...just a quick glance at the "goods" but looking into our eyes after that.

Just a question....do you consider smiling a flirtatious act? I have found that many men think I am flirting if I smile at them.

Answer 7

okay I may get a lot of hate mail for this, but it is usually the women that dress like this, with everything showing and when a guy looks, like at work, she will holler sexual harassment. I can not stand a woman that is like that, if they don't want to be looked at, or have comments made to them, then cover up. I'm not saying that it is right for a man to ooggle and stare, nor is it right for some of the lude comments that are said, but they would probably not say them if she were covered.

Answer 8

Women often dress provocatively,because nobody likes them for their personality and charm.
So they over compensate for having none, by acting like a vastly overpaid hooker, who only talks to customers with an appointment and a fat wallet.
If they were really as gorgeous and desirable as they think they are,they would be waiting for their limo,not a bus.

Answer 9

Some women get a bit of a power trip from those kind of things. The best thing to do is ignore it.

Answer 10

It is rude to admit noticing what any woman is wearing except your wife.

So enjoy without letting on, or proceed at the risk of being ostracized.